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“Conditional love is love that is turned off and on....Some parents only show their love after a child has done something that pleases them. "I love you, honey, for cleaning your room!" Children who think they need to earn love become people pleasers, or perfectionists. Those who are raised on conditional love never really feel loved.”

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Louise Hart

Louise Hart, born in 1911, was an outstanding author whose works spanned various literary genres. She is renowned for her profound insights and unique narrative style. more

“Adolescents have the right to be themselves. The fact that you were the belle of the ball, the captain of the lacrosse team, the president of your senior class, Phi Beta Kappa, or a political activist doesn't mean that your teenager will be or should be the same....Likewise, the fact that you were a wallflower, uncoordinated, and a C student shouldn't mean that you push your child to be everything you were not.”

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“Most adults would not dream of belittling, humiliating, or bullying (verbally or physically) another adult. But many of the same adults think nothing of treating their adolescent child like a nonperson. . . . Adolescents deserve the same civility their parents routinely extend to total strangers.”

Thinking Children Dream Parent Adults Deserve Stranger Bullying Adolescence Civility Humiliating Belittle

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“At a stage when young people want more than anything to be like everyone else, they find themselves the least alike. Everyone their age is growing and changing, but each at his or her own pace.”

People Want Age Young Growing Stage Pace Adolescence

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“Some adolescents are troubled and some get into trouble. But the great majority (almost nine out of ten) do not. . . . The bottomline is that good kids don't suddenly go bad in adolescence.”

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Author:Laurence Steinberg

“The parent-adolescent relationship is like a partnership in which the senior partner (the parent) has more expertise in many areasbut looks forward to the day when the junior partner (the adolescent) will take over the business of running his or her own life.”

Looks Running Parent Partners Partnership Senior Juniors Expertise

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“Parents sometimes feel that if they don't criticize their child, their child will never learn. Criticism doesn't make people wantto change; it makes them defensive.”

People Ifs Feels Children Sometimes Parent Criticism Criticize

Book:You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

Source: You and Your Adolescent, New and Revised edition: The Essential Guide for Ages 10-25

“What causes adolescents to rebel is not the assertion of authority but the arbitrary use of power, with little explanation of therules and no involvement in decision-making. . . . Involving the adolescent in decisions doesn't mean that you are giving up your authority. It means acknowledging that the teenager is growing up and has the right to participate in decisions that affect his or her life.”

Giving Mean Littles Use Causes Decision Growing Up Growing Giving Up Authority Teenager Explanation Decision Making Rebel Arbitrary Involvement Assertion Involving Use Of Power

Author:Laurence Steinberg

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