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“The line between 'normal' and 'neurotic' begins to appear when any activity becomes compulsive - that is, when the person feels pushed to perform the act because it habitually allays his anxiety rather than because of any intrinsic wish to perform the act.”

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Book:The Meaning Of Anxiety
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The Meaning Of Anxiety

This book delves into the complexities of anxiety, examining its origins, manifestations, and effects on individuals. It provides a comprehensive look at the psychological and physiological factors contributing to anxiety, and offers strategies for understanding and managing it. more

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Rollo May
Rollo May

Rollo May was an American psychologist born on April 21, 1909, and died on October 22, 1994. He was a significant figure in existential psychology and is considered one of the pioneers of the field. more

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