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“If a mother cannot meet her baby’s impulses and needs, [quoting Donald Winnicott] ‘the baby learns to become the mother’s idea of what the baby is.’ Having to discount its inner sensations, and trying to adjust it its caregiver’s needs, means the child perceives that ‘something is wrong’ with the way it is. Children who lack physical attunement are vulnerable to shutting down the direct feedback from their bodies, the seat of pleasure, purpose, and direction.”

Book:The Body Keeps the Score / Trauma and Recovery / Hidden Healing Powers

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The Body Keeps the Score / Trauma and Recovery / Hidden Healing Powers

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Bessel van der Kolk

Bessel van der Kolk is a renowned psychologist and author specializing in the study and treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). His work has had a profound impact on understanding the psychological effects of trauma and how to effectively treat trauma survivors. more

“Sometimes when I recall the abominations of that barbarous Russian life I question whether they are worth dwelling on. But on further consideration I am convinced that they demand being exposed, for they are the vicious tenacious truth, which has not been exterminated to this very day. They represent a truth which must be exposed to its roots and torn out of our grim and shameful life - torn out of the very soul and memory of man. But there is another, more positive reason impelling me to describe such horrors. In spite of their repulsiveness and they way in which they mutilated what would otherwise be fine natures, the Russian is sufficiently young and wholesome in spirit to abolish such things and he will surely do so. Our life is amazing not only for the vigorous scum of bestiality with which it is overgrown, but also for the bright and wholesome creative forces gleaming beneath. And the influence of good is growing, giving promise that our people will at last awaken to a life full of beauty and bright humanity.”

Childhood Autobiography

Book:My Childhood

Source: My Childhood

“I call it your source-fracture wound, the original break in your heart from long ago. It may have happened in an instant--a little rejection, a shocking abandonment, or a slight misattunement that suddenly made you realize how alone you were in this world. Or perhaps it was a bit-bu-bit splintering as over the years you met with an intermittent meanness, an unpredictable but repetitive abuse, or a neglect that stole your childhood inches at a time. Wherever, however, or whenever it happened, one thing we can assume is that no adult helped you make accurate meaning of your confusing and painful experience. No grown up sat you down and lovingly said, "No, honey, it's not that you're stupid. It's that your big brother is scared and insecure." "It's not that you don't matter, angel. It's that Daddy has a drinking problem and needs help." "It's not that you're not enough. It's that Mommy has clinical depression, dear, and it's neither your fault nor yours to fix." Without this mature presence to help explain to you what was happening to your little world, you probably came to some pretty strong and wrong conclusions about who you were and what was possible for you to have in life. And those conclusions became a habit of consciousness, a filter through which you interpret and then respond to the events of your life, making your grief all the more complex.”

Grief Childhood Depression Addiction Trauma

Book:Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

Source: Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

“He liked the fog, the world quietened down and closed in. Glossy turned to matt, every stridency was muted, substance leached out of the brute matter all around. Things became notions, the brash present a vague memory. By some parallel process of slippage, his innumerable childhood memories of foggy days morphed into other memories. The fog of illness, real or feigned, of fevers and flu and febrility.”

Childhood Memory Fog

Book:Medusa

Source: Medusa

“Play is also a way to be close and, even more important, a way to reconnect after the closeness has been severed. Chimpanzees like to tickle one another's palms, especially after they have had a fight. Thus, the second purpose of play serves our incredible - almost bottomless - need for attachment and affection and closeness.”

Play Childhood Parenting Attachment Playfulness Human Connection

Book:Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence

Source: Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence

“I hope you never seek validation from others in any aspect of your life I hope you are confident in your desires and remain true to your personal passions I hope you cling to wonder and curiosity I hope you recognize your power to manifest an intentional and tranquil life I hope you are capable of being happy for others I hope you understand that gratification is fleeting, as is every emotion and moment I hope you find peace in simplicity I hope you transform this world, but do not become lost in the trend”

Love Quotes Family Childhood Connections Parenting Friendship And Love Happiness Advice Motherhood Quotes Peace Quote Motherhood Parenting

Author:Rosalie Bardo

“Play is fun, but is also meaningful and complex. The more intelligent the animal, the more it plays.”

Play Childhood Intelligence

Author:Lawrence J. Cohen

“মানুষ দুটা সময়ে খেলতে পছন্দ করে। শৈশবে এবং বৃদ্ধ বয়সে। শৈশবে খেলার সঙ্গী জুটে যায়। বৃদ্ধ বয়সে কাউকে পাওয়া যায় না। তখন খেলতে হয় নিজের মনের সঙ্গে।”

Childhood Old Age

Book:হরতন ইশকাপন

Source: হরতন ইশকাপন

“Ninge din nou şi Elsa hotărăşte că oamenii care-i plac trebuie să-i placă mai departe, chiar dacă au fost dobitoci mai demult. Că altfel se termină cam repede oamenii din jurul tău dacă-i descalifici pe veci pe toţi cei care s-au purtat ca nişte dobitoci cândva. Se gândeşte că asta trebuie să fie morala acestei poveşti de Crăciun. Că aşa sunt poveştile de Crăciun, cu morală.”

Childhood Grandmother Fredrik Backman Bunica