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“If the outcome is not the outcome you want (profound reciprocity and readiness to take this thing to the next level), promise that you will strive to feel sadness, not shame. Grieve the fact that this person does not want what you want, but do not turn against yourself. Direct your disappointment toward the outcome, not toward you as a person.”

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Book:Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive
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