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Colleen Hoover
Colleen Hoover

Colleen Hoover is an American contemporary author known for her emotionally rich novels. Her works often explore themes of love, family, and self-discovery, and have gained a large following among readers. more

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“I can't change all of those things I've chased around my whole life. I can't. I can't make everything make sense, and I can't hide from life. But I guess I can accept the brokenness of the lives of the people I've loved, maybe the brokenness of my own life. I think now, for the first time, I can let the journey be the destination...let the search be the treasure.”

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“If your picture of a perfect afterlife is being with the people you love all the time, why wouldn’t you choose, today while you're still alive, to be truly present with the people you love?”

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“tweet on 136. The other day a client said, “I like being able to chatter on like this or stay silent just so as I want. It takes years to build up a friendship that allows you to do that and it costs money along the way, but with rental person, I can behave like that right from the start. It's a real luxury! I had never realized before that rental person could have a cost cutting effect. 138 - 140/ It would be misleading to say we pay for friendship, but friends certainly cost money. If I went out eating and drinking with someone and they always paid, then it wouldn't feel like friendship. I don't really know how to define, “friend” or “friendship”, and I suppose different people would define them in different ways. But it seems to me at being with friends often involves getting out your wallet. You may go to a restaurant with friends, for example, and when you do you share the bill so that you have a balance relationship. You don't want there to be debts on either side. If you play a computer game at someone else's house, then it may not seem as if it's costing you anything, but if you live some distance away, then you have to pay for the train or bus to get there. And if you have snacks or drinks, then you probably share the cost. But just going to someone's house once to play a game doesn't guarantee a real friendship. You'll have to keep meeting up and every time there'll be a cost involved. I think I'm sounding stingy; the point is simply that building and maintaining friendships involves spending time and money. And besides financial costs, there are costs in terms of emotion and energy. Friends often lend things to each other. In Japan, this happens a lot with manga books. I did that with colleagues I got on with at the company I worked for. I'm not the type of person who wants to read something just because someone else recommends it to me—I'd borrow it just because it seemed unfriendly to me not to. And if you borrow a book, you have to read it and when you give it back, you have to give comments. If you didn't enjoy it, you either have to lie and say you did or you have to choose your words very carefully, so as not the harm your relationship. I find all this kind of thing very stressful. I suppose the psychological burden is the cost of adapting to the other person. As I said earlier on, I'm bad at building relationships within a fixed community, and I think one reason for this is that I can't easily adapt. I guess that makes the mental cost relationship greater than it would otherwise be. To reach the stage where you can just be yourself, but the other person takes a lot of time and energy. You probably argue sometimes or spend long periods, hesitating whether to say things or not. And this is all a type of psychological cost that mounts up over time until you reach the day where you can say without reservation. “This manga I borrowed, it was garbage.” So I think you could certainly say that skipping the whole process would cut costs, financial and emotional. That, at least, was how that particular client saw it. My not doing anything meant there was no pressure on her. It was interesting to find someone who thought like that.”

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“Miriam wished for so much in those final moments. Yet as she closed her eyes, it was not regret any longer but a sensation of abundant peace that washed over her. She thought of her entry into this world, the 'harami' child of a lowly villager, an unintended thing, a pitiable regrettable accident. A weed. And yet she was leaving the world as a woman who had loved and been loved back. She was leaving as a friend, a companion, a guardian. A mother. A person of consequence at last. No. It was not so bad, Miriam thought, that she should die this way. Not so bad. This was a legitimate end to a life of illegitimate beginnings.”

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