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“There is more to life than friends. Eight small steps between now and then. Between what she knew and what she'd grow to wish she'd never known. Between the past and the future, between a small moment of peacefulness and the worst moment of her life. That's the sort of thing that can give you cancer, you know, sitting on a wound like that, not dealing with it... There's a metaphorical can of metaphorical worms just sitting there waiting to be praised open and gawped at. The human memory is such a cruel, frustrating thing, the way it just discards things without asking permission, precious things. You couldn't really get to know someone without having the inevitable 'So have you got any brothers and sisters?' He saw them everyday, men like his dad, old and tired and scared of the women at home, terrified themselves to be rejected. They came here, to the other side of the world, and they found women who made them feel as though it was OK to be a loser.”

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The House We Grew Up In

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Lisa Jewell
Lisa Jewell

Lisa Jewell is a renowned British author, born in July 1968. Her works are known for their suspense and romantic elements, which have won her a wide readership. more

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