“In the journey of wellness, sometimes the path less traveled leads to the most profound healing. Embrace the wisdom of cultures far and wide, for they hold secrets that conventional medicine has yet to uncover.”
Source: Dr Prem's Guide - Wellness Tourism
“When memories become flowers, a new world opens up.”
“I learned to be silent but strong. I made myself invisible and never questioned my ability to survive alone. In the end, that was most damaging. Doing it alone. Believing it was all my responsibility. Not the assault. But the healing. The justice. The protection of nameless other girls. I leaned heavily into the skills I learned as a child, over responsibility, independence, sharp analysis, and self-sacrifice. Which meant I never asked for the support I was so desperate for. Because what I needed, maybe more than his apology, was a community of people who could help me hold and honor all the stories that led to this one, who could help me uproot the layers of silence learned through too much violence.”
Source: Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement
“I needed so much tenderness, love, and support. I needed a team of adults who could keep me safe while honoring my agency and autonomy. Instead, I got the state: two white social workers in my living room.”
Source: Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement
“Most of us have been deeply shaped by the false notion that in order for people to behave better they need to feel worse and be punished. In practice, we see that humans are, in fact, far more likely to change in desirable ways when they are more resourced, not less.”
Source: Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement
“It is important to center the needs of those most directly impacted by the harm in a situation. We also hold that recognizing and attending to the humanity of those who harm is a central aspect of transforming our families, communities, and society. Seeing and dignifying the healing needs of people who abuse also runs counter to the idea that some people "out there" are "monsters" who are expendable or need to be "weeded out". By standing for everyone's need for healing, we challenge the dehumanizing logic that is central to systems of oppression, domination, and abuse. By standing for everyone's need for healing, we maintain our commitment to a vision of true liberation.”
Source: Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement
“lowering your standards to connect with others is unhealed trauma response.”
Source: Dining with the Enemy
“the real flex is in healing yourself such that you don't have to match low vibe energy to meet the mark to fit in.”
Source: Dining with the Enemy
“It is absolutely true that people who harm people were also harmed. I know people sometimes don't want to hear that. I know that makes people mad, people feel like that's an excuse, whatever. But I, with every fiber of my being, the both/and harm and survivorship really sits with me all the time. Cause there's not one person I've worked with who harmed other people that was not also deeply and profoundly harmed themselves in some other context. (Mariame Kaba)”
Source: Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement
“I know for a fact that we can't heal or hurt alone. We must heal or hurt in relationship with other people. (Mariame Kaba)”
Source: Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories from the Transformative Justice Movement