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“Women who are either indisputably beautiful or indisputably ugly are best flattered upon the score of their understandings; but those who are in a state of mediocrity are best flattered upon their beauty, or at least their graces, for every woman who is not absolutely ugly thinks herself handsome; but not hearing often that she is so is the more grateful and the more obliged to the few who tell her so; whereas a decided and conscious beauty looks upon every tribute paid to her beauty only as her due, but wants to shine and to be considered on the side of her understanding…”

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Book:LETTERS TO HIS SON
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Lord Chesterfield
Lord Chesterfield

British statesman known for his epistolary works, which had a profound impact on 18th-century British society. more

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