Quotessence
Home / Quotes / Quote by Barbara Coloroso

Quote by Barbara Coloroso

Work

Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline

Browse quotes and source details for this work. more

Author

Barbara Coloroso
Barbara Coloroso

Barbara Coloroso is a renowned author and educator, known for her works in the field of children and youth education. Her writings cover a range of topics from parent-child relationships, educational methods, to adolescent behavior, aiming to help parents and educators better understand and support the younger generation. more

You May Also Like

“The most effective alternative process [to punishment] is probably extinction. This takes time but is much more rapid than allowing the response to be forgotten. The technique seems to be relatively free of objectionable by-products. We recommend it, for example when we suggest that a parent 'pay no attention' to objectionable behavior on the part of his child. If the child's behavior is strong only because it has been reinforced by 'getting a rise out of' the parent, it will disappear when this consequence is no longer forthcoming. (p. 192)”

“Children naturally ask all kinds of questions and take a long time to tell their stories, and in millions of homes the parents are doing something else as they reply, “Yes, yes, I see.” And in millions of homes, the parents are surprised when their children don’t listen to them. Those little bright eyes know when your attention is wandering. When they are telling you the news from school, give your full attention. Everything else can be set aside for the moment. You are teaching your children to listen to you.”

“One day you’re going to get arrested, and when you do, don’t call me. I’ll tell the police to lock you up just to teach you a lesson.” Because there were some black parents who’d actually do that, not pay their kid’s bail, not hire their kid a lawyer—the ultimate tough love. But it doesn’t always work, because you’re giving the kid tough love when maybe he just needs love. You’re trying to teach him a lesson, and now that lesson is the rest of his life.”