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“You could consider marrying an excellent woman?' I asked in amazement. 'But they are not for marrying.' 'You're surely not suggesting that they are for the other things?' he said, smiling. That had certainly not occurred to me and I was annoyed to find myself embarrassed. 'They are for being unmarried,' I said, 'and by that I mean a positive rather than a negative state.”

Quote by Barbara Pym

Book:Excellent Women
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Excellent Women

This book compiles a series of short narratives that delve into the lives and experiences of remarkable women from various backgrounds and eras. more

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Barbara Pym
Barbara Pym

Barbara Pym was an English novelist known for her wit, humor, and delicate psychological portraits. Her works often focus on the lives of the middle class and are celebrated for their unique perspective and profound insight into everyday life. more

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