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“Regulate your thoughts so that they may be ever in union with His thoughts, whose every thought was a thought of love for those who were dearer to Him than His Own Life.”

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Devotion For The Dying

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Mary Potter
Mary Potter

Mary Potter was an individual active in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Her career and identity are currently unclear, but her contributions and impact may have been significant within a specific field. more

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