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“In one way, what I saw in those mirrors was the self trapped inside the self, forever. But in another way, the self in the mirror was opening out, in an infinite unfurling. I am the one whose drive is being thwarted. And I am the one who is thwarting it.”

Quote by Alison Bechdel

Book:Are You My Mother?: A Comic Drama
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Are You My Mother?: A Comic Drama

This book is a humorous and poignant exploration of themes such as identity and family dynamics. The story is narrated in a comic style, offering readers a unique perspective on these complex issues. more

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Alison Bechdel
Alison Bechdel

Alison Bechdel is an American cartoonist known for her comic strip 'Bechdel Test'. Her work is celebrated for its emotional depth and humor, exploring themes such as gender, family, and identity. more

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