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“Totul debitat de preot, cantat de cor, ca si ritualul cu impreunarea mainilor, inelele, coroanele etc. au ca sens nu o casatorie, o uniune, deci o iubire, ci o inlantuire (inelele), legarea unei femei de un barbat, legarea unei sclave de stapan. Cu claritate reiese ca aceasta ceremonie nu are loc intre doua fiinte egale,ci intre una inferioara si superiorul sau. Cu alte cuvinte, iubirea, dragostea nu exista in casatoria crestina. Caci intre un inferior si un superior pot exista, in cel mai bun caz-din partea inferiorului-respect, admiratie, supunere, iar din partea superiorului condescendenta, ocrotire. Toate acestea la un loc (repet: in cel mai bun caz) pot forma o "afectiune" a celor doi unul pentru celalalt (afectiune de natura diferita la fiecare dintre ei), dar in nici un caz dragoste. Dragostea implica, in primul rand, egalitatea, intelegerea.”

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Book:Jurnalul unei fete greu de mulţumit
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