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“There are those who laugh before the world, but they cry in silence.”

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“Mind control is built on lies and manipulation of attachment needs.”

Lies Torture Attachment Manipulation Dissociative Identity Disorder Mind Control Ritual Abuse Trauma Bonding Operant Conditioning Deprivation Of Rights

Book:Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

Source: Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

“The capacity for dissociation enables the young child to exercise their innate life-sustaining need for attachment in spite of the fact that principal attachment figures are also principal abusers.”

Attachment Child Abuse Dissociation Abuse Survivors Grooming Dissociative Disorder Abusive Parents Child Abuse Survivors Trauma Bonding Psychological Defense

Author:Warwick Middleton

“In 1973, Jan Erik Olsson walked into a small bank in Stockholm, Sweden, brandishing a gun, wounding a police officer, and taking three women and one man hostage. During negotiations, Olsson demanded money, a getaway vehicle, and that his friend Clark Olofsson, a man with a long criminal history, be brought to the bank. The police allowed Olofsson to join his friend and together they held the four hostages captive in a bank vault for six days. During their captivity, the hostages at times were attached to snare traps around their necks, likely to kill them in the event that the police attempted to storm the bank. The hostages grew increasingly afraid and hostile toward the authorities trying to win their release and even actively resisted various rescue attempts. Afterward they refused to testify against their captors, and several continued to stay in contact with the hostage takers, who were sent to prison. Their resistance to outside help and their loyalty toward their captors was puzzling, and psychologists began to study the phenomenon in this and other hostage situations. The expression of positive feelings toward the captor and negative feelings toward those on the outside trying to win their release became known as Stockholm syndrome.”

Trauma Traumatized Stockholm Syndrome Trauma Bonding Hostage Situation

Author:Rachel Lloyd

“Their experiences led them to create assumptions about others and related beliefs about themselves such as "this is my lot in life" and "this is what I deserve". Some also learned that personal safety and happiness are of lower priority than survival and that it may be safer to give in than to actively fight off additional abuse and victimization. When abuse is perpetrated by intimates, it is additionally confounding in terms of attachment, betrayal, and trust. Victims may be unable to leave or to fight back due to strong, albeit insecure and disorganized, attachment and misplaced loyalty to abusers. They may have also experienced trauma bonding over the course of their victimization, that is, a bond of specialness with or dependence on the abuser.”

Abuse Complex Ptsd Trauma Bonding

Book:Treatment of Complex Trauma: A Sequenced, Relationship-Based Approach

Source: Treatment of Complex Trauma: A Sequenced, Relationship-Based Approach

“What happens when you hit your daughter. First, she will bond to you out of fear, mistakenly thinking she has done something wrong, and if she can just manage to not do it again or somehow please you, you might not hit her or anyone else anymore. She will even think you will love her properly if she can earn your approval. She won't realize this is impossible. Then she will either do that with every man she comes within 100 feet of for the rest of her life or until she learns not to - this will take much doing - or she will despise them with such vehemence that she can barely stomach one around. Sometimes she will do a combination of both of those things, working herself into a pattern of push and pull - I love you, I hate you, I need you, I don't need anyone - that will drive her a little crazy. She won't understand at first, if ever, why she only attracts other masochists. Whatever numbing agent she's picked for herself - she will probably try drugs, drink too much alcohol, starve herself or binge and purge, maybe cut herself, act out sexually - in fact, she may do all of those things - that continues to help kill her spirit and dulls her enough to keep her participating in living like a maniac will be consumed to varying degrees depending on need. She will be more likely to commit suicide than if you hadn't abused her. She will give herself away and will mistake admiration and infatuation and sometimes even abuse for love.”

Trauma Memoir Codependency Trauma Healing Child Abuse Survivor Trauma Bonding

Book:Blood: A Memoir

Source: Blood: A Memoir

“I wanted my mother to love me. Despite all the torture and brutality.”

Child Abuse Child Abuse Survivor Emotional Needs Abusive Mother Trauma Bonding Abusive Parent Child Maltreatment

Book:White Witch in a Black Robe: A True Story About Criminal Mind Control

Source: White Witch in a Black Robe: A True Story About Criminal Mind Control

“It is rare for even adult children to abandon their mother, regardless of how many times their mother has abandoned them.”

Trauma Child Abuse Emotional Abuse Abandonment Bpd Abusive Mother Trauma Bonding Borderline Mother

Book:Understanding the Borderline Mother

Source: Understanding the Borderline Mother

“Children with borderline mothers adjust to the chaos of their lives by learning to expect the unexpected. They associate love with fear and kindness with danger.”

Danger Trauma Child Abuse Abusive Mother Trauma Bonding Borderline Mother Love And Danger Fear Based Learning

Book:Understanding the Borderline Mother

Source: Understanding the Borderline Mother

“[...] She was scarcely more than a child, but she listened with side eyes and open mouth of wonder when wh was spoken to; she was quick, too, in her way; she wasn't a fool [...] She said she would go with him for nothing [...] In a way she was better than Nanette because she told Julius he was the most wonderful person in the world. She made him feel important; she was willing and eager to please.”

Elsa Trauma Bonding Misoginy

Book:Julius

Source: Julius

“The cycle of trauma bonding with a narcissist or psychopath is biochemically addictive due to the brutal highs and lows and the unpredictable nature of the chaotic relationship. When pleasurable moments are few and far in between incidents of cruelty, this hot and cold behavior is known in behavioral psychology as intermittent reinforcement. The rare reward of kindness, affection, and validation is unpredictable causing dopamine to flow more readily in the brain than predictably stable relationships. This toxic love creates an addiction to the dopamine rush that has little to do with the merits of the person or the quality of the relationship. Research reveals that the brains of people reeling from tumultuous romantic relationships and heartbreak tend to show heightened activity in the same reward and craving related regions of the brain as in the brains of those addicted to cocaine and other drugs. This "withdrawal" effect is potent in romantic adversity and is part of the reason so many struggle to leave and heal from toxic relationships.”

Love Addiction Trauma Bonding Dopamine Rush Intermittent Reinforcement

Book:Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths: Stop the Cycle of Manipulation, Exploitation, and Abuse in Your Romantic Relationships

Source: Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths: Stop the Cycle of Manipulation, Exploitation, and Abuse in Your Romantic Relationships