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“They've never had to make any real decisions at all. Their lives are easy and unremarkable. They're not awake.”

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Matthew Quick
Matthew Quick

Matthew Quick is an American writer born in 1973. His works are known for their deep psychological portrayals and insights into the lives of teenagers. more

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