“Your closest relationships are often the ones that have the most effect on you, but they are frequently the ones most difficult to change. These relationships are complex and have long histories. Lifetime habits of avoiding being really present with each other may exist in many of them. Family members, for instance, might want to support you, but will not necessarily know how to genuinely listen or be present with you in a way that is enlivening. . . . Even with the best intentions, it can be very difficult to get beyond the past and into the Now.” KnowsWayWantMayLongMightPastDifficultSupportKnow HowRelationshipEffectsHabitMembersIntentionLifetimeComplexesInstanceBeing RealClosestAvoidingFamily MembersSupport YouBest Intentions Author:Richard Moss
“It's so easy to get into the same routine. A novel every two years; perhaps, improving technique. But I'm not interested in that. I'm interested in doing something fundamentally important--and therefore, it needs time. And what I've been doing, really, is avoiding this pressure to get into the habit of one novel a year. This is what is expected of novelists. And I have never been really too much concerned with doing what is expected of novelists, or writers, or artists. I want to do what I believe is important.” WantNeedsWritingYearsBelieveTwoImportantArtistI BelieveEasyNovelToo MuchHabitConcernedPressureExpectedTechniqueNovelistsTwo YearsRoutineNot InterestedImprovingAvoidingEasy To GetTime Of Need Author:Chinua Achebe
“He who wants to educate himself in Chess must evade what is dead in Chess... the habit of playing with inferior opponents; the custom of avoiding difficult tasks; the weakness of uncritically taking over variations or rules discovered by others; the vanity which is self-sufficient; the incapacity for admitting mistakes; in brief, everything that leas to standstill or to anarchy.” WantSelfDifficultMistakeHabitWeaknessTasksChessVanityOpponentsSufficientCustomsAnarchyEducateInferiorsAvoidingVariationAdmittingSelf SufficientIncapacityDifficult TasksStandstill Author:Emanuel Lasker
“For an infrequent action to become a habit, the user must perceive a high degree of utility, either from gaining pleasure or avoiding pain.” ActionPainPleasureHabitDegreesPerceiveUsersAvoidingUtilityAvoiding Pain Book:Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products Source: Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products
“The essence of procrastination lies in not doing what you think you should be doing, a mental contortion that surely accounts for the great psychic toll the habit takes on people. This is the perplexing thing about procrastination: although it seems to involve avoiding unpleasant tasks, indulging in it generally doesn't make people happy.” PeopleThinkingShouldSeemsLyingHabitTasksEssenceAccountsProcrastinationAvoidingPsychicsTollsMaking People Happy Author:James Surowiecki
“I learned to be with myself rather than avoiding myself with limiting habits; I started to be aware of my feelings more, rather than numb them.” FeelingsHabitAvoidingNumb Author:Judith Wright
“Speaking the Lord’s name with reverence must simply be part of our lives as members of the Church... we do not use foul language. We do not curse or defame. We do not use the Lord’s name in vain. It is not difficult to become perfect in avoiding a swearing habit, for if one locks his mouth against all words of cursing,... he is en route to perfection in that matter.” IfsMatterUseNamesLanguageDifficultChurchPerfectLordOur LivesHabitMembersMouthsPerfectionVainCurseReverenceLocksRoutesAvoidingFoulSwearingCursingFoul Language Author:Spencer W. Kimball