“We go on dates thinking that person is our future husband or wife, without getting to know them, as we live in a fantasy and an illusion of romance.” ThinkingKnowsPersonsRomanceFantasyWifeGoes OnHusbandIllusionOur FutureFuture Husband Author:Patti Stanger
“When my husband had an affair with someone else I watched his eyes glaze over when we ate dinner together and I heard him singing to himself without me, and when he tended the garden it was not for me. He was courteous and polite; he enjoyed being at home, but in the fantasy of his home I was not the one who sat opposite him and laughed at his jokes. He didn't want to change anything; he liked his life. The only thing he wanted to change was me.” WantHomeEyeWantedTogetherFantasyHeardHusbandSingingJokesGardenOppositesAffairDinnerEnjoyedSatHis EyesMy HusbandLaughedPoliteAdulteryCourteous Book:Sexing the Cherry Source: Sexing the Cherry
“In negotiating with rejected lovers or husbands, women must stop thinking they can make everyone happy. In many cases of harassment and stalking, it is clear that the woman never learned how to terminate the fantasy which requires resolution and decisiveness on their part. Wavering, dithering, or passive hysterical fear will only intensify or prolong pursuit.” ThinkingCasesFantasyClearLoversHusbandPursuitResolutionPassiveRejectedStalkingHarassmentHystericalNegotiatingWaveringDecisiveness Book:Vamps & Tramps: New Essays Source: Vamps & Tramps: New Essays
“The traditional American husband and father had the responsibilities-and the privileges-of playing the role of primary provider. Sharing that role is not easy. To yield exclusive access to the role is to surrender some of the potential for fulfilling the hero fantasy-a fantasy that appeals to us all. The loss is far from trivial.” FatherEasyLossResponsibilityRolesFantasyHeroHusbandPrivilegeAccessSurrenderTraditionalPrimariesAppealsYieldFulfillingExclusiveProvidersHusband And Father Author:Faye J Crosby
“I really wanted Rachel [from the Girl on The Train] to be purely fixated on fantasy and on her ex-husband.I didn't want her to be embarking on romance, touching people; I wanted her purely in the realm of fantasy and frustration and dreaming and sadness.” PeopleWantDreamWantedRomanceGirlFantasySadnessHusbandTrainRealmsFrustrationTouchingExesEx HusbandEmbarking Author:Erin Cressida Wilson
“She loved Bram in a clear-eyed way she’d never loved her ex-husband, no rose-colored glasses or mindless giddiness, no Cinderella fantasies or false certainty that he’d put her life in order. What she felt for Bram was messy, honest, and soul-deep. He felt like…part of her, the best and the worst. Like someone she wanted to struggle through life with; share triumphs and catastrophes; share holidays, birthdays, every days” WaySoulWantedOrderFeltFantasyStruggleClearShareWorstHonestHusbandRoseGlassesCertaintyTriumphHolidayCatastropheExesMessyMindlessEx HusbandColored GlassRose Colored Glasses Author:Susan Elizabeth Phillips