“Grief is not just a series of events, stages, or timelines. Our society places enormous pressure on us to get over loss, to get through grief. But how long do you grieve for a husband of fifty years, a teenager killed in a car accident, a four-year-old child: a year? Five years? Forever? The loss happens in time, in fact in a moment, but its aftermath lasts a lifetime.” YearsChildrenLongMomentsFactsHappensLastsLossGriefForeverFiveFourStageCarEventsHusbandPressureSeriesLifetimeAccidentsEnormousTeenagerGrievingFive YearsFiftyOur SocietyFour YearsGet OverAftermathCar AccidentTimelines Author:Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
“The traditional American husband and father had the responsibilities-and the privileges-of playing the role of primary provider. Sharing that role is not easy. To yield exclusive access to the role is to surrender some of the potential for fulfilling the hero fantasy-a fantasy that appeals to us all. The loss is far from trivial.” FatherEasyLossResponsibilityRolesFantasyHeroHusbandPrivilegeAccessSurrenderTraditionalPrimariesAppealsYieldFulfillingExclusiveProvidersHusband And Father Author:Faye J Crosby
“As to adultery, let it be held disgraceful, in general, for any man or woman to be found in any way unfaithful when they are married, and called husband and wife. If during the time of bearing children anything of the sort occur, let the guilty person be punished with a loss of privileges in proportion to the offense.” IfsMenWayChildrenPersonsLawFoundJusticeLossWifeHusbandMarriedPrivilegeGuiltyProportionOffenseAdulteryHusband And WifeUnfaithfulDisgracefulGuilty Person Book:Aristotle: The Politics and the Constitution of Athens Source: Aristotle: The Politics and the Constitution of Athens
“We mourn; we sorrow for our loved ones that go - our wives, our husbands, our children, our parents; we sorrow for them; and it is well and proper that we should moum for them and shed tears for the loss, for it is our loss; but it is their gain, for it is in the march of progress, advancement and development. It will be all right when our time comes, when we have finished our work and accomplished what the Lord required of us.” ShouldWellsChildrenSoulParentLossLordWifeProgressTearsDevelopmentSorrowHusbandGainsOur ChildrenFinishedOur TimeAccomplishedMarchLoved OnesShedAdvancementMourn Author:Francis M. Lyman
“I was in such a state of mental shock and quickly spiraled into a depression at the multitude of loss. My husband, I thought, was going to leave me. I was cut off from this mentor and someone I cared for very much, David Petraeus, who also did nothing to stand up for me and in fact, empowered his surrogates to throw me under the bus, and that was devastating.” StatesFactsLossCuttingHusbandShockMy HusbandBusMentorMultitudesLeaving MeEmpoweredSurrogates Author:Paula Broadwell
“There is no fullness of joy in the next life without a family unit, including a husband, a wife, and posterity. Further, men are that they might have joy. In the eternal perspective, same-gender activity will only bring sorrow and grief and the loss of eternal opportunities.” MenMightJoyNextOpportunityLossGriefWifePerspectiveSorrowActivityHusbandEternalIncludingGenderUnitsFullnessPosterityNext LifeFamily Unit Author:Dallin H. Oaks
“If it is perfectly acceptable for a widow to disfigure herself or commit suicide to save face for her husband's family, why should a mother not be moved to extreme action by the loss of a child or children? We are their caretakers. We love them. We nurse them when they are sick. . . But no woman should live longer than her children. It is against the law of nature. If she does, why wouldn't she wish to leap from a cliff, hang from a branch, or swallow lye?” IfsShouldChildrenDoeActionFacesLawMotherWishLossHusbandSickSuicideMovedExtremesCommitBranchesLeapNurseAcceptableLaws Of NatureCliffsWidowsLoss Of A ChildCaretakers Author:Lisa See
“Every widow wakes one morning, perhaps after years of pure and unwavering grieving, to realize she slept a good night's sleep, and will be able to eat breakfast, and doesn't hear her husband's ghost all the time, but only some of the time. Her grief is replaced with a useful sadness. Every parent who loses a child finds a way to laugh again. The timbre begins to fade. The edge dulls. The hurt lessens. Every love is carved from loss. Mine was. Yours is. Your great-great-great-grandchildren's will be. But we learn to live in that love.” WayYearsChildrenAbleNightParentRealizingLosesHurtLossSleepLove IsGriefMorningLaughingSadnessMinesPureHusbandEdgesGhostGrievingBreakfastFadesReplacedGrandchildrenWidowsGood NightUnwaveringGreat GrandchildrenTimbre Author:Jonathan Safran Foer