“But in my own particular case, there was something that happened when I became a mother. Whenever in the news I saw an example of a child being abused or mistreated, my response went from being appalled to being physically revolted.” ChildrenMotherMy OwnCasesSawsHappenedExampleParticularNewsResponseMistreated Author:Mercedes Ruehl
“The male is just a bundle of conditioned reflexes, is incapable of a mentally free response, is tied to his early conditioning, is determined completely by his past experiences. His earliest experiences are with his mother, and he is throughout his life tied to her. It never becomes completely clear to the male that he is not part of his mother, that he is him and she is her.” PastMotherClearResponseMalesDeterminedTiedIncapableConditioningBundlesReflexesPast Experiences Book:SCUM Manifesto Source: SCUM Manifesto
“Our father presents an optional set of rhythms and responses for us to connect to. As a second home base, he makes it safer to roam. With him as an ally--a love--it is safer, too, to show that we're mad when we're mad at our mother. We can hate and not be abandoned, hate and still love.” StillsShowsHomeMotherHateFatherMadResponseRhythmAlliesAbandonedOur FatherOptionalHome Base Book:Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex Source: Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex