“Thomas Gordon, founder of P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training), observed that when children are behaving in a way that interferes with your ability to meet your needs, shouting direct orders to them doesn't work very well. So, he advised sending I messages. That is, a better alternative to, Your room is a disaster area-clean it up this minute, would be something like, I get embarrassed when Mrs. Johnson is visiting and sees your room looking this messy, so I need you to clean it up.” WayNeedsWellsChildrenWould BeOrderParentAbilityRoomsMinutesMessagesTrainingAreasDirectCleanDisasterAlternativesHuman ConditionFoundersInterfereEmbarrassedNeed YouEffectivenessJohnsonMessyVisitingShoutingI Need YouYour Room Author:Ben Yagoda
“In America we tell our parents to bring their child home and put him or her in a crib; as they get older, children sleep in they own room not in Mom and Dad's room. What are we training them for? It's independence, because that's what being empowered is all about.” ChildrenHomeAmericaParentSleepRoomsMomDadTrainingIndependenceEmpoweredMom And Dad Author:Sheena Iyengar