“See, this is why it's hard to be real with you. You never really want anything. You don't know what it's like to feel like you're supposed to be having a certain kind of life and you're just not doing it.” LifeDesireLivingGoalsBeing RealDissatisfactionHopesWanting Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“The truth, when finally revealed, is sticky like wet dough. The majority of it stays in place as one handles it, but pieces break off and adhere, making certain facts seem larger, more portentous, than others.” FactsTruthUnderstanding Book:The Turner House Source: The Turner House
“What am I doing with my life? In the American sense, the bootstrapping capitalist one, her life as-is seemed a good answer. She was a relatively successful business owner, she employed young people, she brought good, wholesome food to the hood. During the pandemic, she had managed to keep her entire full-time staff on payroll, even through the early months when the restaurant was closed and only she and a skeleton crew fulfilled delivery orders. Sure. And yet. So many, too many people had nothing. What was the point of working hard, having something, when one had to live with the knowledge of so much want?” WantLifePhilosophyAmericaSuccessLivingCapitalismNeedHaves And Have Nots Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“Guilt gripped her--she was the person who determined Reina's salary, which in turn determined these conditions. But she remembered that Reina sent the bulk of her money back home to her parents. She would be able to afford a better place otherwise, surely. It was a kind of sacrifice that Nakia never had cause to make. She hoped she would be willing if circumstances called for it. Why was life so hard for some people? A question people called you stupid for asking, yet no one could give you a straightforward explanation.” WealthPovertySacrificeGuiltPrivilegeIncomeSalaryLife Is Hard Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“It's just that some of the people I've met through her, the athletes, the influencers and writers? They all have this same self-righteousness, like this assumption that what they're doing is more valuable than anyone else's work, but they don't do anything if they're not the marquee name, if it doesn't further their brand in some way. They're fucking hollow inside. I don't know, it makes my skin crawl. And it doesn't help that they all happen to be rich.” WealthWritersRich PeopleSelf RighteousnessInfluencersPersonal BrandAthletesWealthy People Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“He's new in town, just finished his med school residency in Ohio. Now's your moment if you want it." Desiree didn't respond. She grabbed Monique's hand to fake salsa to "Suavemente." These people always found a way to sneak in what somebody did for a living, she thought. They walked around with their résumés in their mouths.” WorkWealthPowerDoctorsResumesBourgeoisieUpper ClassProfessionalsBusiness Class Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“Build up her own life--how? How to build a life with no one, rooted to nothing but a house full of an old man's things? Desiree began devoting weekday mornings to scouring the internet for jobs. She learned what she had no interest in--hospitality, teaching, medicine--but what she might apply herself to remained as much a mystery as before Nolan died.” LifeJobsWorkCareersLivingWorkingCallingsOccupationsJob Searching Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“The unvarnished horrors of modern warfare were on everyone's social media feeds now, had been for months, and the truly bleak thing was that there seemed to be just as many people outraged by the carnage as onlookers cheering it on. The more powerful a person was--a politician, a celebrity, or even just a person who made a good living online--the more they seemed fine with or were determined to be silent about the preventable misery of others, whether they be Palestinian, Sudanese, Congolese, or Haitian.” WarSilencePowerViolenceAcceptanceMiserySocial MediaAtrocitiesCarnage Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“How'd everything get small?" "What do you mean?" If Desiree was annoyed by her, her voice didn't betray it. "I wanted to be a bigger person than I am, you know? Like a better person, more part of the world, but somehow I ended up with this small suburban life.” LifeLivingSmallnessExpansivenessBeing Better Author:Angela Flournoy
“I just been thinking about that word, you know. Verbatim. Verbatim. Like you are what you say you are verbatim, right? It's a deep-ass word." She nodded, no idea whatsoever what he meant. "And it's not just what you say. What you do verbatim is who you are too, right?” LifeLanguageLivingWordsBeing True To YourselfVerbatimBeing True To Oneself Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“There is no over the hill, just a series of small hillocks, plotted out before me, each one I pray not to die climbing.” LifePoetryChallengesPoemLivingObstaclesDifficulties Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“...If you're going to be alone, you have the right to secrets. A right not to explain yourself, not even to yourself.” LonelinessSolitudeBeing AloneMotivationsExplanations Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“Here is the truth about self-discovery: it is never without cost.” ChallengesSelf DiscoveryCosts Book:The Turner House Source: The Turner House
“Desiree, Snoop Dogg fan since elementary school, had known for a long time that it was possible to limn the line between enthusiasm for form and endorsement of content. One did this every day, for various reasons. "It's an essential, tragic part of being a Black woman in America," Monique might have said. Most things were objectionable if you looked at them up close.” MusicLyricsObjectionsOffensivenessParental AdvisoryObjectionable MaterialSnoop Dogg Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“Her impulse to want less was born of her own early disappointments, sure, but life would inevitably disappoint everyone, she thought. Better to figure out what exactly was worth getting your arms around and hold tight to that, and anything else good that fell into your lap could be a happy bonus.” LifeHappinessLivingGood ThingsContentmentDisappointments Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“Nakia had come across Conrad and Juanita's box of Obama family memorabilia--novelty plates, buttons, their tickets to the first inauguration--when she helped them to pack up to move back to New Jersey. A time capsule of wild hope, almost painful to look back on now. "We really thought that man was gonna be the Black Messiah or something," she said. "What a time." "Yeah, turns out he was very much not," January said. "And white people ain't been okay since. Look at them.” HopeOptimismAfrican AmericansBlacksWhitesPresidentsBarack ObamaMemorabiliaKeepsakes Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“She isn't herself with him, not exactly. She is an idea that formed between the moment of meeting him at that club and arriving at his door that first time. A slick-with-sweat, high-shine version of herself who needs less of everything. Less conversation, less attention, less time.” SelfRelationshipsPersonalityPersonas Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“How embarrassing. To suddenly understand how much of a burden you are to another person, how much someone else might wish to be free of you.” HateRelationshipsDislikeEmbarrassmentFrictionEstrangementBurdens Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness
“The problem of debasement caused by men. Just how they moved through the world, free and presumptuous. Just how the most they thought to do was always not enough, a task completed never as valuable as true foresight, true initiative.” MenWomenRelationshipsFreedomGenderInitiativeForesightPresumptionGender Relations Book:The Wilderness Source: The Wilderness