“If none of your role models provide the answer, then it is time to go within and ask yourself, "What would make me happy?" In other words, let your feelings guide you. This doesn't work well if you focus narrowly on your personal needs. I am not talking about selfishness or self-interest. When I ask, What will make you happy?, I mean, What way of loving others feels right for you? Choose a way of loving that makes you happy, and your efforts will be play rather than work.” IfsWayNeedsFeelsWellsMeanSelfPlayFeelingsAsksInterestAnswersEffortTalkingRolesFocusModelsGuidesSelfishnessRole ModelsYou ChooseSelf InterestMake You HappyMake Me HappyNot TalkingFeels RightLoving OthersPersonal Needs Author:Bernie Siegel
“Feelings aroused by the touch of someones hand, the sound of music, the smell of a flower, a beautiful sunset, a work of art, love, laughter, hope and faith - all work on both the unconscious and the conscious aspects of the self, and they have physiological consequences as well.” WellsArtSelfFeelingsHandsBeautifulSoundFlowerLaughterConsciousConsequenceAspectSmellUnconsciousSunsetWorks Of ArtHope And FaithPhysiologicalSound Of MusicBeautiful SunsetLove LaughterArt Love Author:Bernie Siegel
“Feel your feelings. What you bring forth will save you.” FeelsFeelingsJesusChristJesus ChristJesus Words Author:Bernie Siegel
“What I learned was to live in my heart and to do what will make my happy, and that was not selfishness. It didn't matter what job I took, my mother's answer was, "Do what will make you happy." It brought attention to my own feelings, and the realization that I never knew what the future would bring so to keep an optimistic view of it, because who knows what today's events will bring.” KnowsHeartMatterFeelingsTodayJobsMotherMy OwnAnswersViewsAttentionEventsMy HeartOptimisticRealizationSelfishnessMake You Happy Author:Bernie Siegel
“Being a survivor doesn't mean being strong - it's telling people when you need a meal or a ride, company, whatever. It's paying attention to heart wisdom, feelings, not living a role, but having a unique, authentic life, having something to contribute, finding time to love and laugh. All these things are qualities of survivors.” PeopleNeedsHeartMeanFeelingsStrongAttentionQualityCompanyRolesLaughingFindingsUniquePay AttentionMealsSurvivorAuthentic Life Author:Bernie Siegel
“We destroy ourselves when we stop feeling. If you bury your feelings within you, you become a graveyard.” IfsFeelingsWithin YouGraveyard Book:365 Prescriptions for the Soul: Daily Messages of Inspiration, Hope, and Love Source: 365 Prescriptions for the Soul: Daily Messages of Inspiration, Hope, and Love
“You may have heard about living today, tomorrow, or "tonow." Tonow, children tell us, is a gift, which is why we call it "the present." Children understand that tonow is the place to live. The present is really the only moment we have. Sure, bad things can happen in the tonow. But when bad things happen to children, they show us the way again, because they know how to be in touch with their feelings and needs.” KnowsWayNeedsMayChildrenMomentsShowsFeelingsHappensTodayKnow HowHeardTomorrowThings HappenBad ThingsPlaces To LiveBad Things HappenWhen Bad Things Happen Author:Bernie Siegel
“If nothing has helped you decide, go ask a child. Children know what they need, and more surprisingly, the know what we need. Adults think. Kids respond with their feelings. They don't think about what you will think of their answer, so they just speak the truth-if you can get to them before junior high school age. At that time, they grow up, stop feeling loved, become depressed and start thinking-and what they are thinking about worries me.” IfsThinkingKnowsNeedsChildrenFeelingsKidsAgeSchoolAsksSpeakGrowsAnswersWorryGrowing UpHigh SchoolAdultsJuniorsSpeak The TruthJunior HighHigh School Junior Author:Bernie Siegel
“What thoughts are so important that it is worth holding on to them even when they make you miserable? Why are you holding on? You are in charge of your thoughts and feelings. If you are willing to search for the reason that you can't let go of disturbing thoughts, you can learn about yourself and restore your own peace of mind.” IfsMindImportantReasonFeelingsWillingLetting GoMiserablePeace Of MindAbout YourselfDisturbingHolding OnThoughts And FeelingsCan't Let Go Author:Bernie Siegel
