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“I've seen enough to know that you can be a human with a mountain of resources and you can be a human with nothing, and you can be a monster either way. Everywhere, and especially at both extremes, you can find monsters. It's at the extremes that people are most scared...” Human NatureSharing Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“Taking care of loved ones in my world was not based on affection. It was based on the fear of losing them.” LoveCaringFear Of DeathCaring For Others Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“We were never to think. This orange is mine. I am giving you what is mine. We were to think, This orange is ours. We're sharing what's ours.” ThoughtOwnershipSharing Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“I think back to this so often in trying to make sense of the world - how there are people who have so much and people who have so little, and how I fit in with them both. Often I find myself trying to bridge the two worlds, to show people, either the people with so much or the people with so little, that everything is yours and everything is not yours. I want to make people understand that boxing ourselves into tiny cubbies based n class, race, ethnicity, religion—anything, really—comes from a poverty of mind, a poverty of imagination. The world is dull and cruel when we isolate ourselves. Survival, true survival of the body and soul, requires creativity, freedom of thought, collaboration. You might have time and I might have land. You might have ideas and I might have strength. You might have a tomato and I might have a knife. We need each other. We need to say: I honor the things that you respect and I value the things you cherish. I am not better than you. You are not better than me. Nobody is better than anyone else. Nobody is who you think they are at first glance. We need to see beyond the projections we cast onto each other. Each of us is so much grander, more nuanced, and more extraordinary than anybody thinks, including ourselves. […] I’ve seen enough to know that you can be a human with a mountain of resources and you can be a human with nothing, and you can be a monster either way. Everywhere, and especially at both extremes, you can find monsters. It’s at the extremes that people are most scared—scared of deprivation, one one end; and scared of their privilege, on the other. With privilege comes a nearly avoidable egoism and so much shame, and often the coping mechanism is to give. This is great and necessary, but giving, as a framework, creates problems. You give, I take; you take, I give—both scenarios establish hierarchy. Both instill entitlement. The only road to equality—a sense of common humanity; peace—is sharing, my mother’s orange. When we share, you are not using your privilege to get me to line up behind you. When we share, you are not insisting on being my savior. Claire and I always looked for the sharers, the people who just said, ‘I have sugar, I have water. Let’s share water. Let’s not make charity about it.” CharityInequalityCollaborationSharing Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“It's strange, how you go from being a person who is away from home to a person with no home at all. The place that is supposed to want you has pushed you out. No other place takes you in. You are unwanted, by everyone. You are a refugee.” RefugeesRefugee Crisis Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“Our minds are malleable. Our minds can be possessed - possessed so gradually that we don’t even realize we’ve lost control.” GenocideRefugee Crisis Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“I wanted to retain the right to disappear. Remaining in place, nesting -- it sets off fears that somebody would yank me away. To counter it, I had to flee. I had to reassure myself that I still knew how to escape.” StabilityRestlessDiscontentNestingFear Of Stability Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“She wanted to tell a true story, a complete story. No ending ever felt right. History made it hard.” Page 265 Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“When you're traumatized, your sense of self, your individuality, is beaten up. Your skin color, your background, your pain, your hope, your gender, your faith, it's all defiled. Those essential pieces of yourself are stolen. You, as a person, are emptied and flattened, and that violence, that theft, keeps you from embodying a life that feels like your own. To continue to exist, as a whole person, you need to re-create, for yourself, an identity untouched by everything that's been used against you. You need to imagine and build a self out of elements that are not tainted. You need to remake yourself on your own terms.” IdentityTraumaPurityMental Trauma Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After
“I could no longer discern what was real and what was fake. Everything, including the present, seemed to be both too much and nothing at all.” RealityOverwhelmedDissociation Book:The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After Source: The Girl Who Smiled Beads: A Story of War and What Comes After