“Victims may be defensive, submissive, over-accommodating to others, passive-aggressive in conflict, dependent on others for self-worth, overly sensitive, even manipulative. They're often angry, resentful, and envious, feeling unworthy or ashamed about their circumstances. Have you ever felt or acted this way?” WayMaySelfFeelingsFeltCircumstancesConflictVictimAngrySelf WorthSensitiveAshamedDependentAggressivePassiveUnworthyEnviousSubmissiveManipulativeResentfulPassive Aggressive Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“Living from the Creator Orientation is actually more challenging. In the Victim Orientation, I didn't have to exercise conscious choice; I just reacted to my circumstances.” ChoicesChallengesCircumstancesExerciseConsciousVictimCreatorOrientation Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“All victims have experienced a loss-a thwarted desire or aspiration-even if they're not aware of it.” IfsDesireLossExperienceVictimAspiration Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“The way you talk about yourself and your life-your story-has a great deal to do with what shows up in your day-to-day experience. Your thoughts create filters through which you view your life. If you think of yourself as a Victim, you filter all that happens to you through the lens of DDT, and you find plenty of evidence to support that viewpoint. That's why the orientation you adopt is so important: it exerts a powerful influence on your life direction.” IfsThinkingWayImportantStoriesShowsHappensViewsDealsPowerfulSupportInfluenceEvidenceExperienceVictimPlentyAbout YourselfDay To DayLensesThink Of YouOrientationViewpointsFiltersLife DirectionDdt Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“Persecutors, like Victims, act out of fear. The may seem fearless, but actually Persecutors are almost always former Victims.” MaySeemsFearVictimFormerFearless Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“Persecutors fear loss of control. Rescuers fear loss of purpose. Rescuers need Victims-someone to protect or fix-to bolster their self-esteem.” NeedsSelfPurposeFearLossSelf EsteemProtectVictimEsteem Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“The Coach is the antidote to the Victim's Rescuer in the DDT...Mainly, a Coach supports, assists, and facilitates the Creator in manifesting a desired outcome. A Coach holds others to be whole, resourceful, and creative...They help you dig deep inside yourself to gain clarity about what you want to create in your life.” WantWholeHelpingSupportCreativeGainsVictimCreatorWhat You WantCoachesClarityOutcomesManifestAntidoteDeep InsideFacilitateDig DeepResourcefulDdt Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“Every Victim requires a Persecutor. But the Persecutor isn't always necessarily a person. The Persecutor could also be a condition or a circumstance. A persecuting condition might be a disease or a heart attack, or an injury. A persecuting circumstance could be a natural disaster, like a hurricane or an earthquake or a house burning down.” HeartPersonsMightEarthHouseNaturalConditionsCircumstancesDiseaseVictimDisasterBurningInjuryHurricanesEarthquakesHeart AttackNatural DisasterBurning Down Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
“A Rescuer isn't always a person. Addictions to alcohol or drugs, sexual addiction, workaholism-all the ways we numb out-can rescue the Victim from feeling his or her own feelings.” WayPersonsFeelingsDrugVictimAddictionAlcoholRescueNumb Author:David Emerald Womeldorff
