“To the significant other, the confusion can become enormous. They “hear” the AVP say, I want it, but I don’t. I want it all, not just some. I’m too overwhelmed; I can’t get what I really want. Poor me. I can’t deal with this, and you, too. I’m tired. I’m bored. I don’t care about your situation. Calm down. We don’t need emotions here. Only controlled access is allowed. These statements may or may not be said, but they are acted out.” ConfusionEmotional AbusePsychological AbuseAvoidantAvoidant AttachmentAvoidant Personality Disorder Author:Dr. Sandra Smith-Hanen
“The spouse sees all the wonderful aspects embodied in these relationships, and the missing pieces in their own relationship with the AVP. This is how the spouse would prefer to be treated. This causes anxiety, confusion, frustration, and loss for the spouse. Coworkers, colleagues, employees experience different levels of the AVP. The AVP’s perfectionism is usually full blown on the job, where the AVPs are at their best” AnxietyConfusionFrustrationAvoidantAvoidant AttachmentAvoidant Personality Disorder Book:Hiding In The Light: Understanding Avoidant Personality Disorder Source: Hiding In The Light: Understanding Avoidant Personality Disorder