“To the significant other, the confusion can become enormous. They “hear” the AVP say, I want it, but I don’t. I want it all, not just some. I’m too overwhelmed; I can’t get what I really want. Poor me. I can’t deal with this, and you, too. I’m tired. I’m bored. I don’t care about your situation. Calm down. We don’t need emotions here. Only controlled access is allowed. These statements may or may not be said, but they are acted out.” ConfusionEmotional AbusePsychological AbuseAvoidantAvoidant AttachmentAvoidant Personality Disorder Author:Dr. Sandra Smith-Hanen