“Wisdom and freedom require the ability to allow the natural flow of emotions to come and go, experiencing emotions but not being controlled by emotions. Always having to prevent or suppress emotions is a form of being controlled by emotions.” FreedomEmotion Book:DBT Skills Training: Manual Source: DBT Skills Training: Manual
“The bottom line is that if you are in hell, the only way out is to go through a period of sustained misery. Misery is, of course, much better than hell, but it is painful nonetheless. By refusing to accept the misery that it takes to climb out of hell, you end up falling back into hell repeatedly, only to have to start over and over again.” SufferingAcceptanceDbt Book:DBT Skills Training: Manual Source: DBT Skills Training: Manual
“Keeping a stiff upper lip may be needed while around the person invalidating you, but on your own, there is every reason to be compassionate and self-soothing. It does hurt to be invalidated.” DbtSelf Validation Book:DBT Skills Training: Manual Source: DBT Skills Training: Manual
“Acceptance can transform but if you accept in order to transform, it is not acceptance. It is like loving. Love seeks no reward but when given freely comes back a hundredfold. He who loses his life finds it. He who accepts, changes.” ChangeAcceptanceDbtDialectical Author:Marsha M. Linehan
“Acceptance is the only way out of hell.” WayHellAcceptanceRadical Acceptance Author:Marsha M. Linehan
“You can feel like a mental patient, but that doesn't mean you have to act like one.” FeelsMeanPatientIllnessMental Illness Author:Marsha M. Linehan
“People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement.” PeopleFeelsBodyMovementEmotionalDegreesSkinsThirdsAgonyLackingBorderlinePersonality Disorders Author:Marsha M. Linehan
“Radical acceptance rests on letting go of the illusion of control and a willingness to notice and accept things as they are right now, without judging.” AcceptingPsychologyAcceptanceJudgingRight NowLetting GoIllusionRadicalWillingnessPositive PsychologyRadical AcceptanceIllusion Of Control Author:Marsha M. Linehan