“It’s very lonely and sad feeling when you are the Big Box in a relationship. You can fit them but they can’t fit you. You can understand them but they can’t understand you. The ideal relationship is when one box is just slightly bigger than the other so that they fit like a glove fits in a hand. Then there is no room for insecurities and misunderstandings. Such a match doesn’t come ready-made. Both sides have to surrender to each other to fit into each other.” LifeRelationshipsTrustSurrenderMisunderstanding Author:Shunya
“Not just on body, we wear clothes on our mind too. Opinions and prejudices are like tightly stitched clothes. It’s OK if you wear them while dealing with the outside world. That too is not suggested for seekers. Faith and trust are like comfortable unstitched clothes. You must wear them inside home with loved ones.” LifeFaithPeaceRelationshipsTrustOpinionsJudgements Author:Shunya
“If the flowing water is feminine and the shores are the masculine, a river represents the best relationship. The water flows with grace and dignity held securely by the proud shores.” LoveRelationshipsTrustFeminineMasculine Author:Shunya
“Your entire being is like a tree. Your family and friends only touch specific parts of it - mostly the fruits, maybe some branches. A large part of you remains untouched. You feel like a machine, you feel dead inside. You shout, snap, and sulk at random things, or silently suffer. How to tell them that you want your entire being acknowledged? Or maybe you yourself have forgotten your entire being. That’s why you need a person or a deity, a mortal or immortal, who is like air, who doesn’t want anything specific from you, who touches every inch of your being, who makes you feel alive.” LoveReligionFaithSpiritualityRelationshipsTrustDevotion Author:Shunya
“Whether it’s your relationship with your spouse or Guru or God, trust is the root. It can only be watered by spending silent time together. Talking is like watering the leaves. When trust dries up, everything you say will be misunderstood and all the sweet talks you have had in the past will only cause pain and tears. They can’t build or rebuild trust.” RelationshipsSilenceTrustConversations Author:Shunya
“When there is full trust, communication is not required. And when there is no trust, communication is not possible. But we human beings can't live without communication. So we choose middle path. We get attracted towards people we can communicate with.” LoveLifeRelationshipsTrustCommunicationAttractionMiddle Path Author:Shunya
“When we catch someone lying, it becomes a pandemic like situation. Our mind starts sanitising every word and action coming from them.” TruthRelationshipsTrustPandemicLie Author:Shunya
“In relationships, we first want to be understood and then we want to be discovered one layer at a time till eternity.” LoveLifeUnderstandingRelationshipsTrustSelf DiscoverySpirituality Quotes Author:Shunya
“When you're glued to someone with a strong adhesive, you can't just let go of them. You have to let go of your skin, your flesh, a part of your heart and soul. It's extremely painful but equally sacred because spiritual journey is all about letting go of yourself piece by piece, layer by layer.” LoveSpiritualityRelationshipsLetting GoHeartbreakAttachment Author:Shunya
“How can I move on? With my thoughts and imaginations, I have turned you into a demigod. You're no longer a person; You're an idol in the temple of my heart. No, it can't be a move on. It has to be a sacrilege.” LoveRelationshipsHeartbreak Author:Shunya
“When bad experiences are over, when termites have been cleaned out, it is important to fill the holes left by them. Open holes become invitation to red ants. Fill them. Revive your hobbies. Do the things that empower your inner self.” RelationshipsHeartbreakBreakupNew BeginningsToxic Relationships Author:Shunya
“When people stop being the way they were, your mind starts increasing the spices to compensate for the loss of ingredients. Our eyes open only when it’s too late... when ingredients completely disappear and our own spices is all that is left.” LoveLifeWisdomSpiritualityLife QuotesRelationshipsHeartbreak Author:Shunya
“When people need a reason to go, they turn the blame on you. When the rain of love turns into arrows of blame, throw away the umbrella and take up the shield.” LoveLifeWisdomRelationshipsHeartbreakBreakup Author:Shunya
“If you are allowing someone to lift you up with praise and compliments, you are giving them power to throw you down with blame and insults.” LifeSpiritualityRelationshipsSelf EsteemHeartbreakDignity Author:Shunya
“There was a sage who was expert in herbal medicines. With great difficulty he once procured a rare seed which, as per his intuition, could cure any disease. He planted the seed. After 12 years of extreme hardwork, the tree yielded nothing but poisonous fruits. How could he let go of 12 years of investment? So he started nurturing the tree more and more in hope of turning it into the elixir it was supposed to be. The poison of tree started entering into his blood now. He was about to die. Luckily a disciple came to visit him and destroyed the tree. A couple of years later, during a casual walk into jungle, he found a full grown tree with fruits that could cure any disease. Let go of relationships or projects that turned out to be poisonous or dead. Your investment will come back to you in the form of luck.” LifeSpiritualityRelationshipsHeartbreakLuckFortuneSeparationAttachment Author:Shunya
“You were a fish in an aquarium. You went swimming in free waters with someone who turned out to be a shark, You are back in aquarium but now water is red because of your wounds. Only parasites will grow in it. Change your perspective towards your past. Accept that the shark gave you courage. Now all you need is the knowledge of self. Then you will become a swan swimming in the eternally peaceful lake.” LoveSpiritualityRelationshipsRegretHeartbreakGuiltWoundsBreakup Author:Shunya
“If you feel an emptiness inside you, it's good. Your desperation to fill it is not good. In desperation you will fill it with junk. Become available to it. It will attract what it needs. And it will make you do what needs to be done.” DesireGoalRelationshipsFulfillmentEmptiness Author:Shunya
“Relationship between two individuals can't have any problem. But individuals are rare to find. Most people have a whole crowd living in their head. Relationship between two crowds is bound to have problems.” LoveLifeWisdomRelationshipsSolitudeIndividuality Author:Shunya
“Sunset is as beautiful as sunrise. Why can't the endings be as beautiful as beginnings? Why do we fly in 7th heaven in the beginnings and fall to 7th hell in the endings? Why can't we stay at the ground?” PeopleSpiritualityRelationshipsHeartbreakMaturityShunya Author:Shunya
“Only love can handle honesty, not attachment. Hence love is free from lies while attachment is the breeding ground of lies.” LoveLifeMindHeartTruthRelationshipsPsychologyLiesAttachment Author:Shunya
“Don't show so much attachment to someone that they start lying to keep your heart.” LoveMindHeartSoulTruthHappinessRelationshipsLiesAttachmentUntruth Author:Shunya
“Your whole being is like a home. Everyone is allowed to come at the door, only a few in living room, fewer still in bedroom. And then there is a secret room where nobody is allowed. Not even your own mind. We are so obsessed with others that we mostly live at the door (outer appearance) or in living room (job, relationship and travel that we do to fit with others).” SelfRelationshipsSilenceSocietySolitudeEnlightenmentVanityInner SelfAlonenessStatus Author:Shunya
“Even if somebody was mean to you in school days, you will feel good to meet them after many years. Childhood memories are the roots of your physical self. You feel good even if an enemy waters them. Similarly, there are soul connections. Even if somebody was your enemy in previous births, you will feel good to meet them in this birth. And often the story repeats ... the enemies of your previous births create more havoc in your life disguised as friends.” MindSoulUniverseRelationshipsMysticismSoulmateOccultSoul Connection Author:Shunya
“A fish swam a thousand miles through the river and finally met the ocean. The Ocean laughed at this and said, “You are clearly joking. You are a local fish.” Often we do a lot for our family and friends. But then, in just one instant, everything is forgotten. Not just that, we suddenly become villain for them.” LifeMindSoulSpiritualityRelationshipsPsychologyHuman Behaviour Author:Shunya
“In cricket fielding, if catch comes right in your hand, there is no fun. You enjoy the most when you have to dive to catch the ball. This is what playfulness is all about. Difference between being a servant of someone and surrendering to someone is playfulness. Don’t make things too easy in your relationship with your spouse or children or gods. Keep the playfulness alive.” MindSoulSpiritualityRelationshipsBuddhismSurrenderDevotionHinduismPlayfulness Author:Shunya
“Don’t feel guilty of being angry at your loved ones. That anger is just a state of love. If love is milk, that anger is boiling milk; it kills harmful bacteria.” LoveLifeSoulSpiritualityLife QuotesRelationshipsAngerGuilt Author:Shunya
“If your one Rupee is pending with a shopkeeper, you would go to that shop again even if you have to spend 10 Rupees fuel. Same thing happens in relationships. If you have invested a few precious moments in someone, it becomes very difficult to leave. This is how Maya (Space-Time) keeps a soul attached birth after birth.” MindSoulRelationshipsPsychologyAttachmentHinduism Author:Shunya
“There is an emptiness inside us. If we look at it from outside, we feel painful loneliness. If we sit inside that emptiness and look outside, we experience blissful solitude.” RelationshipsLonelinessBuddhismSolitudeZen Author:Shunya
“You behave like the perfect person with others. But you unload all your mental crap on those who are close to you. Is it fair?” LoveRelationshipsPsychologyHuman NatureHuman Behavior Author:Shunya
“If a friend is telling you positive things about their job or relationships, it doesn't mean that they are happy in them. They may be just consoling themselves by counting the positives.” LifeMindWisdomRelationshipsPsychologyHuman Nature Author:Shunya
“Whether you disappoint someone or make them happy, in both cases you engage and occupy their mind. In both cases you give them what their mind craves for : any form of engagement.” MindWisdomRelationshipsPsychologyExpectationsDisappointment Author:Shunya
“Mirrors show exact reflection of you. What if there were a mirror that showed a different reflection than yourself? Imagine that Ram stands in front of the mirror and sees not Ram but Shyam in the mirror. “Maya” is the house of such mirrors. The people you see around you are just your different reflections. Some reflections are similar to you and others are completely different. If you try to change a reflection, you would end up banging your head against a mirror. Instead, change your position and angles. Don’t try to change people. Just change your distance and expectations from them.” LoveMindPhilosophyTruthSpiritualityRelationshipsIllusionExpectationsDetachment Author:Shunya
“Imagine you have to choose something out of ten options and you have very little time. You will choose what is best for you. But if you have a lot of time, you will set aside the best option and try other options. This is the trick of Time. Subconsciously, we are assured that we have a lot of time. So the best option doesn’t seem attractive to us. We ignore it. Other options give us more kick. They seem more attractive. That is why most of us fall into wrong relationships. And the rest of us get rejected by those for whom we were the best option.” LoveMindPhilosophyChoicesSpiritualityRelationshipsPsychology Author:Shunya
“When you see something happening for 10 times, you expect it to happen 11th times also. If it happens, you feel “normal”. If it doesn’t, you get either disappointment or pleasant surprise. So, expectations are like 3D glasses that make you experience Maya with a new range of emotions. But don’t keep these glasses on 24x7, otherwise you will forget what your loved ones originally look like. Similarly, if you are caught up with a loved one who wears these glasses 24x7, try to preserve your originality not only for yourself but also for them so that they find you original and whole when they let go of those glasses (hopefully).” LoveLifeMindSpiritualityRelationshipsPsychologyExpectations Author:Shunya
“Only saints have infinite capacity of gratitude, Normal people have limited capacity, If you are doing so much favour to someone that they won’t be able to return it, it may make them feel guilty, not grateful.” MindRelationshipsPsychologyGratitudeGuiltGratefulness Author:Shunya
“Language has it’s uses but we have started using it as quick and cheap alternative for actions: It takes a lot of effort to make someone feel that you love them. “I love you” is cheap alternative. It takes effort to create study environment at home so that children feel like studying. “Do your homework” is cheap alternative.” LoveMindSoulActionSpiritualityLanguageRelationshipsDuty Author:Shunya
“If somebody has already made up their mind, advising them against it is counter productive. More you oppose, more they defend it and more blind they become about it.” MindWisdomRelationshipsPsychologyAdvice Author:Shunya
“Some things and people may be giving you pain. But you can't let go of them because the void that will be left behind is even more painful.” PainSufferingSpiritualityRelationshipsLetting Go Author:Shunya
“More you give care to others, more receptive you should be to receive care from others. Flow should be equal both ways. Unequal flow is a sign of emotional blockages and sickness.” LoveWisdomCareEnergyRelationshipsSelf Love Author:Shunya
“You are just chilling... lost in your thoughts. A question comes to you with a tone of care and love, “why are you upset?” Even though you are not upset, you actually become upset just to get that sympathy and care. This is a sad truth. You have to be unwell and upset in order to get care and love. So mind keeps searching for reasons to be upset. Even body starts falling sick in hope of getting care and love. Body starts ageing. Perhaps abundance of love can make one immortal.” LoveLifeCareSpiritualityRelationships Author:Shunya
“Sensuality alone is just raw electricity in the body. If channelized through heart, it takes form of love. Otherwise it leaks out as lust and perversion.” LoveHeartSexRelationshipsLustSensuality Author:Shunya
“When someone doesn't have what you have, their heart fills with admiration and head with envy. Their heart wants them to become closer to you and their head wants them to become like you.” HeartWisdomRelationshipsEmotionsEnvyGoalsAdmirationHead Author:Shunya
“When you feel secure, you can be the best version of yourself. Insecurity brings out the worst version of you.” LoveSelfRelationshipsSecurityInsecurity Author:Shunya
“If a ball doesn't move the way they expect, physicists would be disappointed with their theory of gravitation, not with the ball. When people don't behave the way we expect, we should be disappointed with our theories about people, not people. Human beings are not dead things. Let's stop trying to conform each other to our theories about each other.” LifeSpiritualityHopeRelationshipsExpectationsDignityControlling Author:Shunya
“If you have perpetual disagreement with your family member, no matter where the conversation starts, it will end at the same conflicting point. It’s so repetitive that you exactly know their response even before they say it. If that is so, why not do it all in your head? Say both your side and their side of argument in your own head while watching them silently. It will become like a prayer. At the end you will not DEMAND them to change. You will just wish. And wishes do get fulfilled.” PeaceRelationshipsBuddhismArgumentInner PeaceHinduism Author:Shunya
“People who claim to love you swear that they can die for you, but they won’t let you live in peace.” LoveRelationshipsObsessionAttachmentClinging Author:Shunya
“If you have seen your teacher only in school, it feels strange to come across them in a market. If you have seen your milkman or newspaper boy only at sunrise, it feels strange to see them in broad daylight when they come to collect payment. When a friend or loved one breaks away from your circle, it feels strange to see them in their new circle. It is not jealously. It is a spontaneous and neutral feeling. It turns into jealousy when it gets mixed with our fears and insecurities. Accept this feeling as-it-is before it turns into jealousy.” RelationshipsFriendshipSocietyJealousyComparison Author:Shunya
“All emotions and feelings are tasty if they are drank and digested. They turn nasty because we keep chewing them with the teeth of reasoning and thought.” FeelingsRelationshipsBuddhismThoughtsEmotionsReasoningHinduismNo Thought Author:Shunya
“You are a small part of the universe. How can another small part make you complete? The line you have drawn between you and the rest of the universe is Ego. When that line vanishes, you become complete.” UniverseRelationshipsEgoCompletenessEgoless Author:Shunya
“Two horses stand before you. One is domesticated, meek, and loyal. The other is wild, bold and fickle. You feel attracted towards the wild one. And then you complain why it is not loyal!” LoveRelationshipsEmotionsAttractionLoyalty Author:Shunya