“But what if your kid runs into the street in front of a car? Don't you have to use Method I?" ... If a child develops a habit of running into the street, a parent might first try to talk to the child about the dangers of cars, walk her around the edge of the yard, and tell her that anything beyond is not safe, show her a picture of a child hit by a car, build a fence around the yard, or watch her when she is playing in the front yard for a couple of days, reminding her each time she goes beyond the limits. Even if I took the punishment approach, I would never risk my child's life on the assumption that punishment alone would keep her from going into the street. I would want to employ more certain methods in any event.” ChildrenDangerPunishment Book:Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children Source: Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children
“An adolescent does not rebel against her parents. She rebels against their power. If parents would rely less on power and more on nonpower methods to influence their children from infancy on, there would be little for children to rebel against when they become adolescents. The use of power to change the behavior of children, then, has this severe limitation: parents inevitably run out of power, and sooner than they think.” IfsThinkingChildrenLittlesDoeWould BeRunningParentPowerPsychologyInfluenceMethodParentingInevitableRelyRebelAdolescenceRaising ChildrenInfancyTeaching Children Author:Thomas Gordon
