“It is one of those simple but beautiful paradoxes of life: When a person feels that he is truly accepted by another, as he is, then he is freed to move from there and to begin to think about how he wants to change, how we wants to grow, how he can become different, how he might become more of what he is capable of being.” ThinkingWantFeelsPersonsDifferentMightBeautifulMovingGrowsSimpleCapableAcceptedParadox Author:Thomas Gordon
“Most parents hate to experience conflict, are deeply troubled when it occurs, and are quite confused about how to handle it constructively. Actually, it would be a rare relationship if over a period of time one person's needs did not conflict with the other's. When any two people (or groups) coexist, conflict is bound to occur just because people are different, think differently, have different needs and wants that sometimes do not match.” PeopleIfsThinkingWantNeedsPersonsTwoDifferentSometimesWould BeHateParentGroupsPeriodsConflictBoundsHandleConfusedCoexistNeeds And Wants Book:Parent effectiveness training: the no-lose program for raising responsible children Source: Parent effectiveness training: the no-lose program for raising responsible children
“An adolescent does not rebel against her parents. She rebels against their power. If parents would rely less on power and more on nonpower methods to influence their children from infancy on, there would be little for children to rebel against when they become adolescents. The use of power to change the behavior of children, then, has this severe limitation: parents inevitably run out of power, and sooner than they think.” IfsThinkingChildrenLittlesDoeWould BeRunningParentPowerPsychologyInfluenceMethodParentingInevitableRelyRebelAdolescenceRaising ChildrenInfancyTeaching Children Author:Thomas Gordon
