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“I know when to say no and when to say yes. I take responsibility for my choices. The victim? She went somewhere else. The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more. But I need to continue to remember the key principles: boundaries, letting go, forgiveness after feeling my feelings—not before, self-expression, loving others but loving myself, too.”

Book:Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

This book provides insights and practical advice for individuals struggling with codependent relationships, focusing on self-care and breaking free from controlling behaviors. more

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Melody Beattie

Melody Beattie is an American author known for her books on personal growth and self-help. Born in 1948, her works delve into themes such as codependency, self-acceptance, and emotional independence, offering profound insights and practical tools for readers. more

“Boundaries emerge from deep within. They are connected to letting go of guilt and shame, and to changing our beliefs about what we deserve. As our thinking about this becomes clearer, so will our boundaries. Boundaries are also connected to a Higher Timing than our own. We’ll set a limit when we’re ready, and not a moment before. So will others. There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed.”

Thinking Knows Life Mean Moments Success Belief Changed Ready Becoming Higher Limits Letting Go Deserve Shame Guilt Connected Boundaries Reaching Timing Things Change Deep Within

Author:Melody Beattie

“I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for my future. I will focus on what’s happening now instead of what’s going to happen tomorrow.”

Ifs Wells I Can Happens Today Remember Can Do Focus Praying Tomorrow Happenings Be Good Best Things Staying I Pray My Future Live For Today

Book:The Language of Letting Go: A Meditation Book and Journal for Daily Reflections

Source: The Language of Letting Go: A Meditation Book and Journal for Daily Reflections

“I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.”

People Felt Hurt Saws Defense Hostile Hostility Crushed

Book:Melody Beattie 4 Title Bundle: Codependent No More and 3 Other Best Sellers by Melody Beattie: A collection of four Melody Beattie best sellers

Source: Melody Beattie 4 Title Bundle: Codependent No More and 3 Other Best Sellers by Melody Beattie: A collection of four Melody Beattie best sellers

“We can stop picking on ourselves for picking on ourselvesWe can cherish ourselves and our lives. We can nuture ourselves and love ourselves. We can accept our wonderful selves, with all our faults, foibles, strong points, weak points, feelings, thoughts, and everything else. It's the best thing we've got going for us. It's who we are, and who we were meant to be. And it's not a mistake. We are the greatest thing that will ever happen to us. Believe it. It makes life much easier.”