“When the animal tamed the external forces, it became human, and when we humans learn to tame our internal forces, we will become civilized beings.”
Source: Monk Meets World
“Self-regulation is highly valued. Even if we find them a bit tedious, we admire people who stick to an exercise regimen. We certainly value people who do not express every negative emotion they experience, those who are “low maintenance” because they can control their reactions to disappointment and insecurity. We can count on the self-controlled person to keep her promises because she will not be distracted in the course of so doing.”
Source: Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification
“Just as a muscle grows tired from exertion, the capacity for self-regulation becomes depleted after it is used. Also like a muscle, the capacity for self-regulation appears to grow stronger through regular exercise (after it recovers from the initial fatigue).”
Source: Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification
“If parents can instill self-control in their children, they can achieve a powerful and important effect that will benefit their offspring for years to come. Indulgent parenting and an excessive concern with maximizing children’s self-esteem may, however, be detrimental to self-control, producing instead a personality that is weak, narcissistic, and self-indulgent.”
Source: Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification
“Some people, some events, make you lose your head. They're like guillotines, cutting your life in two, the dead and the alive, the before and after.”
Source: Swimming in the Dark
“In every walk of life, nature will force you to be selfish. If you can conquer that force and be unselfish instead, you'll conquer the world.”
Source: Solo Standing on Guard: Life Before Law
“A society oblivious to moderation, in time causes its own downfall.”
Source: Mucize Insan: When The World is Family
“Biases are nature's algorithm for the preservation of life, but unlike mechanical algorithms, nature's algorithm in human neuroanatomy is accompanied by the capacity to defy that predominant algorithm and write new ones with acts of self-regulation.”
Source: Earthquakin' Egalitarian: I Die Everyday So Your Children Can Live
“Self-regulation is not caution, it is an act of course-correction.”
Source: Giants in Jeans: 100 Sonnets of United Earth
“Complexly traumatized children need to be helped to engage their attention in pursuits that do not remind them of trauma-related triggers and that give them a sense of pleasure and mastery. Safety, predictability, and "fun" are essential for the establishment of the capacity to observe what is going on, put it into a larger context, and initiate physiological and motoric self-regulation.”
Source: Trauma and Attachment