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“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.”

Quote by Esther Perel

Book:Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

This book delves into the dynamics of long-term relationships, discussing how couples can sustain sexual and emotional intimacy. It examines the factors that contribute to the decline of passion in partnerships and offers strategies for reigniting and maintaining a fulfilling romantic life. more

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Esther Perel is a renowned author and therapist known for her profound insights into couple relationships and sexual psychology. Her work delves into the complexities of modern marriage, love, and sex, offering readers a unique perspective. more

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