“If we focus on the means to change a person's state in the direction of what we believe is greater health, we are also stepping out of empathic connection. This is a violation of our innate expectation, at every biological level, that we are meant to be embedded in a nest of warm relationships.”
Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships
“Five Qualities
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Respect, Love, Truth, Justice, and Humanity;
Respect: Consider others better than you
Love: Care and sacrifice without expectation
Truth: Courage to face, or bear, and fight lies
Justice: The belief in equality without distinctions
Humanity: Empathy, sympathy, morality, and tolerance
Whenever, you reap such qualities, in your character; indeed, you will sow consequently that, as peace and harmony, without meetings, resolutions, and wars.”
“This reassurance that we only want to witness and acknowledge what is happening may be the essential stance that deepens safety.
When we have no intention of being an active agent of change, the feeling of possible coercion seems to leave the relationship.”
Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships
“I have found that much that happens in supervision/consultation focuses on what needs to happen next. There can be a sense of the person under consideration becoming a static object to be analyzed, and then advice may be offered about how that person could/should be shaped in a certain (presumably healthier) way.”
Source: The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships
“Ideas cannot be burned. They cannot be destroyed just because a few copies of the book they’re printed in are.”
Source: The Collector of Burned Books
“I have great respect for surgeons, but for mental health professionals...not so much.”
“There are people who get things done and those who expect others to do for them. Some rise to the occasion, while others let opportunities pass them by. A responsible person stands behind their choices and doesn't look for someone to blame. The true measure of a man lies in his ability to size up take charge of and create his own destiny.”
Source: Life Is Not Complicated-You Are: Turning Your Biggest Disappointments into Your Greatest Blessings
“No one respects beauty.”
“One boyfriend is enough to a Girl who respect her body enough”
“Seeking popularity achieves nothing other than an easy life in the short term. The effective leader will build respect, not popularity”
Source: Leadership Rules: 50 Timeless Lessons for Leaders