“Oftentimes, we get advice from people who are not equipped to give it, and it does more harm than good.” Quote by Amy Chan
“What really has helped me through my own breakups has been learning tools to self-soothe, reframe, and forgive, and how to channel negative energy into positive. Resilience is a muscle. Learning how to cope and process painful emotions is a muscle. And I've been through enough ups and downs to know that you have a choice. You can use breakups, which are pivotal points in life, as a catalyst for growth, or you can choose to have it make you jaded and more fear-based.” EnoughChoicesEnergyGrowthEmotionNegativeForgivingPainfulResilienceBreakupUps & Downs Author:Amy Chan
“The "natural" instincts when someone is going through a breakup are counterintuitive to healing. For instance, many people stop eating or eat very unhealthy, and if your body is not fed the necessary nutrients during this trying time, it's extremely difficult for you to heal emotionally. So, first things first, force yourself to eat, even if that entails drinking green smoothies so you're getting nutrients in your body.” PeopleTryingDifficultNaturalHealingEatingDrinkingInstinctHealBreakup Author:Amy Chan
“Get in the habit of writing down three things you're grateful for every day. Studies show that in a two-minute span of time, done over 21 days in a row, you can actually rewire your brain. Your brain starts to retain a pattern of scanning the world for the positive versus the negative. Seeing things in a frame of positivity and gratitude is a muscle. You can strengthen this muscle through practice.” WorldWritingDoneBrainStudyHabitGratitudeNegativeGratefulPositivity Author:Amy Chan
“Be kind and gentle on yourself. In this fast-paced world, we are so hard on ourselves and impatient with healing. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to speed up the process. Sure, you can numb the pain or distract yourself, but if you don't allow yourself to process the emotion in a healthy way, the pain and darkness just gets buried deep inside you, and eventually comes up in your future relationships. Stop blaming yourself, and instead try to look for the lesson and the growth opportunity.” WorldTryingKindPainOpportunityGrowthEmotionHealingDarknessHealthyBlameSpeedGentleBe KindOur FutureImpatientNumb Author:Amy Chan
“I've learned that each time you go through a breakup, the pain isn't any more or less intense or hard, but the way you process and get back up can be different when you learn the tools to get yourself back to equilibrium. There are so many lessons that can be learned during times of heartbreak, and there's an opportunity to grow and become more emotionally healthy.” DifferentPainOpportunityHealthyIntenseBreakupEquilibrium Author:Amy Chan
“The biggest piece of advice I would give to other women and girls is that it's really hard, and I feel like we're promised in like these phrases like, "Never give up," and stuff like that, it's going to be easier if you just listen to them. In my experience, and I think the experience of my friends and other women around me, it's a lot - you have to do a lot for yourself because the world isn't as friendly to women and girls as it should be, and it's not as helpful as it should be.” ThinkingWorldGivingGirlAdviceGiving UpFriendlyHelpfulNever Giving UpJust Listen Author:Rowan Blanchard
“The friendship that you create between you and a mom - or you and an older woman figure - is so important and so influential. I think that my relationship with my sister, my relationship with my best friends - when I'm feeling really terrible about myself, they're always there to let me know that I am being dramatic about something, or I'm being stupid about something - it's good to have those kinds of people to drag you back down and protect you.” PeopleThinkingKindImportantFeelingsStupidMomTerribleProtectLet MeDramaticMy SisterMy Best FriendInfluentialOlder WomenBeing Stupid Author:Rowan Blanchard
“I think just all girls are my mentors. I feel like I've learned everything I know from just being around other women and learning from them.” ThinkingGirlMentor Author:Rowan Blanchard
“I think as more people get more aware, people get more defensive. And when I say that, I mean people who are more privileged, like men. People will think that by pointing out patriarchy and an oppression, that means that all men are horrible people, and they'll write that on social media, and I think that's something that's increased.” PeopleThinkingMenWritingMeanSocial MediaHorribleOppressionPatriarchyPointingMean People Author:Rowan Blanchard
“There's this whole debate about whether being PC is just being like political or whether it's just being a good person, and I feel like that's something that people need to take into consideration because, you know, people are like, "Oh PC culture is ruining America." It's being a good person. If you're offended when people are not, you know, sexist or racist, then you're a part of the problem.” PeopleProblemPoliticalCultureDebateConsiderationRacistOffendedGood PersonSexistBeing A Good Person Author:Rowan Blanchard
