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“I think one thing that women can do is to just be more honest, with themselves and with their friends, and be more willing to say I'm really excited about this part of my life, but I'm screwing up over here, or this is a mistake I've made, or this is something I've given up on.”

Quote by Debora Spar

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Debora Spar is a renowned scholar and author, known for her insights into the fields of business, management, and education. Born in 1963, she has a rich academic background and professional career. more

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