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“In the end, that’s what Kevin has never forgiven us. He may not resent that we tried to impose a curtain between himself and the adult terrors lurking behind it. But he does powerfully resent that we led him down the garden path—that we enticed him with the prospect of the exotic. (Hadn’t I myself nourished the fantasy that I would eventually land in a country that was somewhere else?) When we shrouded our grown-up mysteries for which Kevin was too young, we implicitly promised him that when the time came, the curtain would pull back to reveal—what? Like the ambiguous emotional universe that I imagined awaited me on the other side of childbirth, it’s doubtful that Kevin had formed a vivid picture of whatever we had withheld from him. But the one thing he could not have imagined is that we were withholding nothing. That there was nothing on the other side of our silly rules, nothing.”

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Book:We Need To Talk About Kevin
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We Need To Talk About Kevin

The story delves into the complex relationship between a mother and her son, focusing on the aftermath of a tragic event and the mother's introspection on her role in her child's life. more

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Lionel Shriver
Lionel Shriver

Lionel Shriver is a British journalist born on May 18, 1957. She is known for her unique writing style and profound insights into social issues. more

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