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“But I stopped showing them my emotions—I stopped feeling when I was around them—because having emotions meant you had weaknesses. Having weaknesses meant that people could find ways to hurt you. So, when I start to feel too much, I shut down. It’s the only thing I know.”

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Book:You Were Always There
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