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“Fear is an enemy that can be killed only at close range. The closest range of all is intimacy. The deeper the fear is embedded in one’s spirit, the more vulnerable it is.”

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Andrew Vachss
Andrew Vachss

Andrew Vachss is an American author known for his crime novels, which often focus on the underworld of New York City, particularly themes of organized crime and child protection. more

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