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“There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.”

Quote by Ross W. Greene

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Ross W. Greene is a renowned psychologist and author, known for his contributions to the field of child and adolescent behavior issues. His books, 'The Lost Boy: How to Understand and Help the Challenging Child' and 'Social Emotional Learning: How to Help All Children Succeed in School and Life,' have had a profound impact on educators and parents. more

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