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“I hate the loss of diversity in the world, even though I sometimes get tired of embodying that diversity. I don't wish for anyone in particular to be gay, but the idea of no one being gay makes me miss myself already.”

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Andrew Solomon
Andrew Solomon

Andrew Solomon is an American writer known for his broad themes and profound insights. His work spans a variety of fields, including history, culture, psychology, and literature. Solomon's writing often explores themes of identity, family, and human experience. more

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