“The advantage of sex is that it cannot occur without a high degree of vulnerability on both sides. The physical act requires an almost unavoidable degree of physical and emotional intimacy - which explains why sex can be so difficult between two people who lack trust or are nursing tensions and resentments.”
Source: How Ready Are You For Love?: A path to more fulfilling and joyful relationships
“I longed to be the subject of a school-shaking romance, but relationships in which personality was not involved were valueless to me. What I wanted most of all was to use sex as a weapon to allure, subjugate and, if possible, destroy the personality of others.”
Source: The Naked Civil Servant
“People often ask if it is difficult to be a celibate monk or nun, but to practice mindfulness as a monastic is in many ways easier than to practice as a layperson. To refrain from sexual activity altogether is much easier than to have a healthy sexual relationship.”
Source: Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts
“If you want to give up a habit, first give up the habit of resisting change, which blocks your way to growing. Welcome, the change when it is necessary. Accept it when it is natural or inevitable. By doing so probabilities of your finding happiness become higher.”
“The problem with the supposed “orgasm gap’ is it assumes that climaxing is the purpose of sexual pleasure, when it’s clearly not. Approaching sex with the ambition of getting your rocks off is a selfish way to enter fuckery – sex doesn’t have to end because one partner orgasms. Placing limitations on sexual intimacy is damaging. If one or both partners don’t pass the finishing line, you haven’t failed. Sex is not a race or a competition, yet the orgasm gap tries to make it so.”
“If you use sex whenever you want with whomever you want, you’re treating it like trash, like it means nothing. Imagine a piece of duct tape. It’s got a purpose, it’s designed to stick to something, but if you stick it to the dog and rip it off, then the floor, the wall, the toilet, the neighbor’s pit, after that, it just won’t work right anymore. When you finally find your spouse and try to connect with them, there will be all sorts of crud in the way. It might be a physical STD, or it could be an emotional one that spreads through your relationship and life like an infection.”
Source: Pursued: God’s relentless pursuit and a drug addict’s journey to finding purpose
“If He saw me at my very worst, when drugs, sex, and other fleeting pleasures ruled every portion of my heart, mind, and life, and still chose to die for me, He must still love me now. If He was patient with me when I was living solely for rebellion, He must also be willing to be patient with me now that my heart was softening and I was actually trying. I was still failing, but at least my heart wanted to honor Him now.”
Source: Pursued: God’s relentless pursuit and a drug addict’s journey to finding purpose
“For years, I had chosen to espouse addiction, sex, and success, rather than espousing the one who actually, truly, fully, cared about me. I had to live in lavish indulgence of my sin for years, before I was able to realize that it couldn’t ever fully satisfy.”
Source: Pursued: God’s relentless pursuit and a drug addict’s journey to finding purpose
“As one might say about sex, even bad bodysurfing is good bodysurfing.”
Source: Musings from a Small Island: Everything under the Sun
“Every living thing wants to continue into the future. This is true of humans, as well as of all other animals. Sex and sexual reproduction are part of life. Sex can bring great pleasure and enrich a deep connection between two people. We shouldn't be against sex, but we also shouldn't confuse it with love. True love doesn't necessarily have to do with sex. We can love perfectly without sex and we can have sex without love.”
Source: Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts