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“I must stop remembering. I must keep them in a faraway place. The more I remember, the greater my agony. These thoughts stuttered in my mind. So I stopped talking about them, I wouldn't mouth my boys' names, I shoved away stories of them. Let them, let our life, become as unreal as that wave.”

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Book:Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

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