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Banished Knowledge: Facing Childhood Injuries

This book delves into the profound effects of childhood injuries on mental health, offering insights into the complex interplay between past experiences and present challenges. It examines the emotional and psychological consequences of childhood trauma, providing a nuanced understanding of the healing process. more

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Alice Miller
Alice Miller

Alice Miller, born on January 12, 1923, and died on April 12, 2010, was a renowned psychologist. Her research focused on child psychology and the psychology of abuse, delving deeply into the psychological impact of child abuse and neglect. more

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