“Consistent incremental improvements will inevitably lead to monumental results.”
Source: Suddenly Silent and Still
“After being apart from you, I lost myself, but believe me, I found a version of myself that no one could have imagined.”
Source: Sukoon
“A crucial goal is to promote healthy inter- and intra-personal relating based on inter-dependent rather than dominance and submission. Therapy needs to remain a cooperative rather than prescriptive endeavour.”
Source: Attachment, Trauma and Multiplicity: Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder
“The development of an incipient careseeking/caregiving system involves moving from avoidance to intra-subjectivity. This can be very anxiety-provoking. One person described it as a 'crisis of attachment '. Any past internal relating is likely to have been highly ambivalent at best. This is my face and which internal beliefs, such as being unworthy of care, which were formed in identification with the perpetrator, are challenged. The little creature [a hidden dissociated part of the self] may perceive both caregiving and careseeking as dangerous. He or she may fear being vulnerable to further abuse or exploitation and 'flinches, expecting pain again '.”
Source: Attachment, Trauma and Multiplicity: Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder
“This is the terror: to have emerged from nothing, to have a name, consciousness of self, deep inner feelings, an excruciating inner yearning for life and self-expression - and with all this yet to die.”
Source: The Denial of Death
“The external therapeutic relationship remains a template for the kind of supportive companionable relating it needed internally. At the same time, this stage facilitates the role of the therapist as a consultant to the system [person with dissociative identity disorder].”
Source: Attachment, Trauma and Multiplicity: Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder
“The patient does not make light of manifestations of herself anymore, does not so often laugh or jeer at them, even if she still unconsciously passes them over or ignores them, even in the subtle way her parents dealt with the child before she had words to express her needs.”
Source: Drama of Being a Child Book Club
“All parts need to be honoured for their role in survival and re-framed as helpful before new coping strategies can be developed. The ability to internalise the relationship with the therapist as a caregiver is key to the individuals ability to provide for self-care and management.”
Source: Attachment, Trauma and Multiplicity: Working with Dissociative Identity Disorder
“i thought healing
would feel like forgetting
like erasing your name
from every corner of my mind
there were days
when your ghost sat beside me
and i almost let it stay
but healing is learning to live
without inviting the past to the table”
Source: Prisoner
“I’ve learned that regardless of what someone else’s response to a situation is, it doesn’t have to dictate my ability to heal. Whether or not it does…is my choice.”
Source: Jesus and Therapy: Bridging the Gap Between Faith and Mental Health