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“Tyler was faster than she was and won nearly every game. Between hands he stirred the canh around on the blanket to mix them up. She taught him how to shuffle properly, and he practiced over and over. "How do you play strip poker?" he asked her once. In the cramped space he couldn't see her surprise. "How do you know about that?" "I dunno. I heard it somewhere, I guess. So what is it?" "You play for whatever the other person has," she said. "The winner gets the loser's things." "Like what?" "Oh, odds and ends. Wallets and combs. Things." "Oh." He dealt them each a fish hand. "I heard it was for clothes." She supposed he knew more than he was letting on. He was testing her. "Well, some people play for clothes, too. You play until the other per-son has nothing left." "Why would you want to do that? What would you do with their clothes?" Allison laughed. Sometimes Tyler seemed old for his years, world-wise and as cynical as a grown-up. But then at other times, like now, he just seemed NINE. "I don't know," she said. "It's just a game.”

“A child's dominant emotions can significantly contribute to his experiences. This is because emotions are tough nuts to crack for children and can cause a negative feedback loop. Especially so, with younger children and those who are underdeveloped in their cognitive functioning because they lack experience and metacognition that they can put to use when under pressure. So many children have unresolved negative emotions, with which they face their day to day activities, causing a reinforcement of the cycle.”

“Children tend to rate tasks by how much discomfort it causes them and would literally be comfortable with doing badly on such tasks no matter how simple it seems or is portrayed by others. There is a cycle called the cycle of resistance that explains this. If a task or chore causes children or even adults to struggle emotionally or physically, it always takes extra effort to beat this disdain that they consciously or unconsciously associate with it.”

“You can't discipline a child you hate. You however can punish such a child. Discipline has a positive tone to it so much that you have to love that child to the point where your respect for him shows through. Punishment on the other hand is fueled by anger and pain and that's why punishment is the easiest way for an angry parent or teacher even, to deal with a child or student. And worse, it always causes a strain on the relationship, can cause some stress in both parties and a tension that can last a lifetime.”

“Within a minute he had squirmed down feet foremost into this cellar, to explore. The phantom cat had long since gone by another hole between the stones, through which he could see into the garden. He could find no other opening. Roots of ivy thrust into the ground among the masonry; tendrils of ivy with bright, pale leaves had trailed in through the holes. There were slug tracks on the floor and walls. A dead centipede was phosphorescent in a corner. 'What a lovely place,' Kay thought. 'I shall be able to come here always and have it for my cave. I’ll bring bread and ham here. I’ll keep a catapult here. Perhaps I’ll run away some evening and sleep here. I wish I could get one of those lanterns with colored lights; that would be just the thing for here.”

“While, in adult life, people’s beliefs and desires are always clashing against the relentless reality, for children, the boundary between believing and being is easily transgressed. Protected from the real world by adults, children can move between realism and fantasy without suffering consequences. Peter Pan knows this well: “I just want always to be a little boy and to have fun.”

“Did Abel used to threaten you and Dad with El Cuco?" Her uncle nodded. "Did she ever say what he looked like?" He shook his head. "That used to scare me more, not knowing what he was. Childhood imaginations are powerful things." "Not as powerful as a mother's threat." Javier heard his voice like it was coming from someone else. He had planned to stay quiet. Now the light beam was on him again. "Nothing is more powerful than that, son.”