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“In idiot compassion, you avoid rocking the boat to spare people’s feelings, even though the boat needs rocking and your compassion ends up being more harmful than your honesty. People do this with teenagers, spouses, addicts, even themselves.”

Quote by Lori Gottlieb

Book:Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

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Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

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Lori Gottlieb is an American writer born on December 20, 1966. Her works primarily focus on themes such as personal growth, interpersonal relationships, and mental health, which have won her a wide audience. more

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