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“For those of you who have childhood memories with pain or loss in them, it probably doesn't take much to recall those grievances and grudges. But as we look at the power of confronting the truth about your past, I hope that you (...) can avoid the waste before the days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and months turn into years. You can take control. You can avoid those wasted years. And it's never too late to start.”

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Book:What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It
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Kevin Leman
Kevin Leman

Kevin Leman, born on September 1, 1943, is an American psychologist known for his research in the fields of family relationships and personal growth. He has helped people improve their family and interpersonal relationships through his unique humorous style and practical advice. more

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