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“Speaking the truth in love requires two parts--truth and love. Cut either one out of the equation, and you'll cut yourself short. You may be one of the most difficult people for you to love because you know your weaknesses so well. Likewise, you may be one of the most difficult people to tell the truth to because it's so much easier to avoid facing the lies you tell yourself. But put those two elements together in your life--truth and love--and see how much easier they are to take!”

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Book:What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It
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“For those of you who have childhood memories with pain or loss in them, it probably doesn't take much to recall those grievances and grudges. But as we look at the power of confronting the truth about your past, I hope that you (...) can avoid the waste before the days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and months turn into years. You can take control. You can avoid those wasted years. And it's never too late to start.”

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Book:What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It
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“Perhaps you've been through a seemingly endless string of difficult circumstances in life or you still feel anger toward your parents for painful childhood memories you have. Whatever the difficulties you've faced, you can overcome the lies attached to your private logic that continue to hold you back. So many people look everywhere but to themselves for the change that needs to happen in their lives, pointing at their missed opportunities and blaming their parents. You don't have to be one of them.”

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Book:What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It
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“Unfortunately, we live in an instant Jell-O society, with everybody wanting microwaved success. So as you look at truth therapy to combat the lies you tell yourself, don't go overboard with your expectations. Remember to lighten up and put your party hat on every now and then. Celebrate the little steps . . . as well as the significant milestones.”

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Book:What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It
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“You may have terrible memories from your childhood . . . horrific memories that no one should live through. Especially not a child. If this has been your experience, and you've placed those memories in a vault, locked them away, and buried the key, who could blame you? But, by doing so, what else--besides your memories--have you placed in that vault? May I gently suggest that perhaps you've climbed in there yourself, closed the door, and locked it behind you? If so, you may be effectively locking out those who could help you.”

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Book:What Your Childhood Memories Say about You . . . and What You Can Do about It
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“Good sex is an all-day affair. You can't treat your wife like a servant and expect her to be eager to sleep with you at night. Your wife's sexual responsiveness will be determined by how willingly you help out with the dishes, the kids' homework, or that leaky faucet that drips throughout the night.”

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Book:Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
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“The older your teenagers are, the more they will have their own ideas and opinions. If you take them seriously, rather than assuming your ideas are always best and the only ones, you will begin to grow a relationship that will extend beyond the hormone-group years.”

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Book:Have a New Teenager by Friday: How to Establish Boundaries, Gain Respect & Turn Problem Behaviors Around in 5 Days
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“Moms are, in my opinion, the wonders of the universe. They can leap tall buildings in a single bound, they can go where no person has gone before, and they can somehow get toddlers to eat. The problem is that mothers are also some of the most stressed people on the planet. There's just so much to do and not enough of them.”

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Book:What a Difference a Mom Makes: The Indelible Imprint a Mom Leaves on Her Son's Life
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“Why does a dad matter so much to a daughter, in particular? A dad is the one who teaches a daughter what a male is all about. It's the first man in her life--the first man she loves, the first male she tries to please, the first man who says no to her, the first man to discipline her. In effect, he sets her up for success or failure with the opposite sex. Not only that, but she takes cues from how Dad treats Mom as she grows up about what to expect as a woman who is in a relationship with a man. So Dad sets up his daughter's marriage relationship too.”

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Book:Be the Dad She Needs You to Be: The Indelible Imprint a Father Leaves on His Daughter's Life
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“Remember, you cannot be responsible for the happiness of other people. You can do your best to be sensitive to the needs and desires of others, but some people will not be happy no matter how much you do for them. If you decided you were responsible for their happiness, you could drive yourself completely up the nearest wall.”

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Book:Why Your Best Is Good Enough
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