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The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

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“In narcissistic abuse recovery you will raise your awareness of bad behavior. You will see people’s actions through a lens of protection and no longer tolerate drama and lower vibrational energy vampires. Of course knowing red flags is important but tapping into and listening to how someone makes you feel, is the key to happiness. A drama free zone must be the protection you deploy. If someone causes you to run to others to try to understand their behaviors, this relationship is not healthy for you. We need no labels, we need no proof they are a narcissist, you need to listen to your gut, and you need courage to walk away. No drama equals peace. Drama equals confusion, sadness, and fear.”

“One day you may get angry at yourself. Angry for staying, angry for allowing bad behavior without a stronger fight, and angry for not knowing exactly what this was. Getting angry at yourself is a stage you must go through as you look for answers. Anger propels change, without anger victims stay or allow them back. Your goal should be to move through the anger and not stay in anger too long.”

“HEARING THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR HEAD The voices, the words, and the devaluing messages will haunt you. At first you may hear the good promises or things they said that were seemingly loving. You cling, wishing they were true again. These messages are holding you to them. Other times the internal messages become haunting words. 'You are no good', 'you can't do anything right', 'you are not good enough'. These messages internalize as truths until we heal and accept the truth. They were lying to keep you controlled.”